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My 7 year old has his first girlfriend

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kellie92 · 30/01/2019 17:07

Not sure how I feel about this at this age I imagined he would only love mummy. But now I'm mum and he has a girlfriend. He has always been close with his girl we were neighbours when me and her mum were pregnant then they moved to a different street when the kids were babies they went to nursery together and now are in same class at school. By chance we moved recently to the same street so they hang out together all the time. I think its really sweet but feel he is growing up so fast. I want my baby back I'm not ready.

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TheFuckfaceWhisperer · 30/01/2019 17:11

Good grief

Paddy1234 · 30/01/2019 17:12

You think your not ready!
My lovely 16 year old girl is being wooed by the worst reputation upper sixth with the history of breaking hearts - imagine that as a first bf!

PurpleDaisies · 30/01/2019 17:12

They are children playing. She isn’t his girlfriend.

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iklboo · 30/01/2019 17:14

I had my first boyfriend at 7. We held hands at playtime and I lent him my favourite toy gun (he gave it back when we 'split up'). We're still friends on FB now

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kellie92 · 30/01/2019 17:16

They may only be playing but he very much refers her as his girlfriend. The word girlfriend may not mean the same to him and it does to us but even just for him to be saying it is crazy to be. He's still my baby I didn't expect it so soon.

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LovingLola · 30/01/2019 17:17

I assume he’s hearing adults referring to her as his girlfriend?

bookmum08 · 30/01/2019 17:18

When my daughter was in Reception pretty much the whole class paired up and organising their weddings so at 7 he is clearly a late bloomer. Although daughter's class is Year 6 now and no one wants to marry each other anymore. They are either 'smelly and annoying' (mainly the boys) or 'bossy' (mainly the girls)!

Lottapianos · 30/01/2019 17:20

For the love of sanity, stop referring to her as his girlfriend. He's SEVEN! He's picked that nonsense up from hearing some daft adult saying it. He's a little boy who is friends with a little girl. Perfectly normal and nothing start hand wringing about

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kellie92 · 30/01/2019 17:20

No we have never said anything about being his girlfriend. He just came home from school and said E is my girlfriend. I was amazed that it was even a thing. I never bothered much with boys when I was young so this is new to me.

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kellie92 · 30/01/2019 17:23

I am aware he is only 7 I had never called her his girlfriend. She has always just been his friend. I am amazed that he calls her that. I'm not encouraging it was basically seeing if it was normal as I never did anything like that when I was younger

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Singlenotsingle · 30/01/2019 17:24

My dgs6 was engaged to marry a girl last week. Just a few days later and he has another one lined up ...

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kellie92 · 30/01/2019 17:28

Good to know this is a fairly normal thing then. Still pretty crazy :)

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ImNotWhoYouThinkIam · 30/01/2019 17:34

My ds2 had his first girlfriend in year 1
They split up in year 2 because she decided she didn't need a boy to make her happy ( I think her older teenage step-sister had split up with her boyfriend and declared not needing boys). He was heartbroken! He cried his eyes out when I picked him up from school.

They got back together a week later when he promised her she could have chocolate cake at their wedding

Beamur · 30/01/2019 17:37

My DD had a regular 'boyfriend' from Reception and a schedule of female friends she was going to marry. It's just play and mirroring the world around them.
She's at high school now and finds the prospect of a boyfriend (or girlfriend) disgusting! I'm sure that will change again.
Don't worry OP, he still loves you best.

WatcherintheRye · 30/01/2019 17:38

My Mum used to tell the story of her and her childhood best friend, Norman. They were both 5, and swept away by the romance of sitting, watching fireworks one bonfire night, Mum leaned over and asked Norman to marry her. Norman replied he was sorry, he couldn't, because he didn't want to leave his mother!

Bezalelle · 30/01/2019 17:53

The "adultifying" of children is really grim.

hmmwhatatodo · 30/01/2019 18:36

I cant bear this kind of nonsense.

BlancheM · 30/01/2019 18:49

Lol. My eldest had about 5 girlfriends at that age, I wasn't lamenting the fact he was growing up to be a bigamist in the making
They are young children.

BigusBumus · 30/01/2019 19:01

Hate it when adults refer to their child as having a boyfriend or girlfriend. It's weird sexualisation.

ThisCoolBean · 30/01/2019 19:01

I got engaged at the age of 5.
DD had a boyfriend at 6, but they’ve broken up and are just friends now.
None of it was actual serious boyfriend/girlfriend - it’s just kids playing.
Currently DD is 7 and wants to go on honeymoon with me, because she thinks it’s a special holiday with the person you love the most.

ThisCoolBean · 30/01/2019 19:03

I did however find a letter that DS10 had written to a girl asking her to be his girlfriend. Think this was more seriously but thankfully not sent!

MrsMarigold · 30/01/2019 19:11

My seven year old was in love and wrote to a girl he met on holiday. He really seemed to show all the signs, but my DD, aged six, was very jealous as they are very close. She also told me she has no intention of having a husband or getting married when she is older because men are troublesome and a teacher of hers had children without being married or in a relationship so she would like to do the same.

Silvercatowner · 30/01/2019 19:12

The "adultifying" of children is really grim

This.

Mulberry72 · 30/01/2019 19:17

What Bezalelle said.

Grim.

TheClaifeCrier · 30/01/2019 19:21

Oh for goodness sake, get off your high horses. I had a boyfriend when I was five. I made him a valentine's card by cutting out hearts and sticking them on some paper. Not sure he knew I considered him my boyfriend, but I luffed him

Quite a few of the kids in DS(6) class apparently have boyfriends and girlfriends, it's pretty normal round here. They don't do anything as far as I'm aware, they just declare it to be the case.

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