Is this a thing where someone doesn't allow someone else to say their own feelings?

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Badly put eg.. Someone is hurt and another person will say... No thier mot their putting it on.. M. Or someone says.. My back injury is really playing up today and someone says... You always do this wen you want your own way...

Stuff like that? It's sort of not allowing someone their own feelings on something....

The alternative is to simply belive the person doesn't actually feel well.

Well mentioning physical pain isn't the same as discussing feelings.

Your examples are both about physical pain. Perhaps the other person gets tired of someone moaning about pain? It gets VERY old quickly when adults complain about pain.

It's called not having empathy.

Or being a cunt.

What cjt110 says.

Physical pain-

Oh my back hurts- dh would say, do you need anything? How did you do that? Shall I run you a bath?

Emotional pain- same dh or friends would ask questions.

it's not what I meant it's like someone has their own rigid views and they won't allowed the other person that they may be hurt or feeling blah whatever.. The person just never fives the other persons the benefit of the doubt.

Say what you mean OP

I don’t understand

Yes, there are people who take every opportunity to undermine, shut down and invalidate other people's feelings and experiences. There are a number of reasons why people do it.

In the nicest possible way, OP, your way of expressing yourself is a bit incoherent.

Are you talking about someone who genuinely appears not to believe that someone else is feeling physical pain, and accuses them of pretending in order to manipulate?

Maybe a better example would be one of the few times I've broken down in front of my mother in the last twenty years, and her telling me on the phone later that evening "You weren't really upset earlier, were you?"

So yes, it is a thing. In my mother's case she can't cope with me having different feelings and thoughts to her, so I'll say I think this, and she'll turn round and tell me I think that. How she can know better than I as to what goes on inside my brain I don't know!

Yy greensleeves has just articulated it far better.. Invalidating someone else's view point etc. And parthenope yes.. They think someone else is being manipulative etc.

I know it's a thing I have witnessed people do it but I wondered if it was a personalty trait or something like narcissism.