I don't really like my mother and don't enjoy spending time with her.
What do you do when you dread your mother coming to stay?
I could write a short novel on this if I tried, but basically I haven't seen her since early November and I in no way miss her and would prefer it if I didn't have to spend the weekend with her. Anyone got any coping mechanisms? I guess I should have therapy but I can't actually be arsed to talk about at length. It didn't feel like we got on when I was a child, teenager etc. She was harsh and critical and whilst she's mellowed now, I still find her difficult to talk to. (Our politics are v different and she's quietly racist even though she knows I don't agree). Simply put, shes just not someone I'd be friends with.
I don't love my mother ( or my father, different thread. They're not together now), as simple as that. I maintain some degree of contact for an easy life, but I do feel that a lot of people don't understand though (but then why would they, if they have great relationships with their parents?)
I sometimes tell people this, but they often look very shocked, it feels taboo to admit it.
I would never seek comfort in her, nor ask advice, and whilst I feel sad about that I wish I didn't feel the guilt. It almost feels like it would be easier if she were spectacularly awful, rather than on a low level.
There's no answer I suppose. Just wondered if others felt the same.
Also, I appreciate lots of people love their parents and get on really well with them. I also appreciate that lots of people miss their mothers. That's not the case here.