Anyone up? I could use a bit of a handhold :(

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Found out last Thursday that on 28 Feb my job ceases to exist. Ive got a fairly good chance of getting a new role easily (luckily for my level there’s lots available) but I think it’s just hit me that after ten years I might be out of a job. I can’t stop crying.

I’m sitting here downstairs worrying rather than crying in bed. We’ll be fine - if the worst happens, the redundancy payout is enough to pay off debts so even if my salary halved we’d be ok.

Don’t know why I’m feeling so upset right now :(

It's the possibility of a large change being forced on you when you don't want it, and knowing that it may be out of your control. No one likes to feel like they're not in control of their life!

Sorry op, sounds like the shock has worn off and you're dealing with the loss now. Allow yoirself tkme to process this, have good cry, then take yourself off to bed with a hot water bottle/brandy/hot chocolate whatever will confort you. Sounds like you're in a good position financially to manage the change, but it must still be tough to have had the decision made for you.

Oh OP :(

I got made redundant about 10 years ago during the GFC, I sort of new it was coming but it was still a shock.

Redundancy is shit - you are feeling upset because of financial insecurity and losing a job knocks your confidence. I know I got the feeling that I was not important.

Sorry you’re feeling upset.

I was in the same scenario with my work 4 years ago and I hadnt worked elsewhere for such a long time that it felt so daunting to start afresh somewhere new but honestly in hindsight it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I’m in a much better job now, and it forced me out of my comfort zone.

You will be absolutely fine and best case scenario you walk into another job and you have the package to either pay off your debts or have as extra in the bank.

If your in the UK then you will be entitled to time off for interviews and a lot of companies help employees with their CV, interview techniques etc.

Good luck xxx

You're all totally right. I’m going to make a strong tea and read for a bit while my eyes leak.

It’s the helplessness, you know? I literally can’t do anything to change the situation.

Aw OP That’s really crappy. Handhold from me, but there’s nothing anyone ca do about it- so try (maybe after a good night’s sleep) to see the silver lining. New role coming up! New colleagues, new opportunities! It’ll be okay

Change is always frightening as you can't envisage what is next, even worse if it is forced upon you. Very stressful!

However, you will be fine. You are clearly employable and when the next opportunity comes you will be ready for it.

Thanks all. I really do appreciate it. Sometimes you just need that impartial opinion. DH is lovely and very supportive but he’s never worked in a professional environment so hasn’t got a clue. Plus he always goes into ‘fix it’ mode when I just want him to listen and nod and maybe give me a hug.

It’s natural to feel upset it’s a big shock, just shows your very normal.

My husband was made redundant and with his payout we were able to use as part deposit for a house so got on the property ladder much quicker than otherwise. I have also been made redundant a few times.. I work in marketing which is often the first to go in down turns. Each time was a shock and heartbreaking as I always thought I gave 100% and it was therefore personal... but looking back... something always came of it... and not just money, sometimes a new friend or time to spend with my little girl. I wish at the time I had not spent so much time blaming myself and letting it affect my self esteem.

After being so upset last night, I’ve now turned a corner and am thinking fuck it, I’ll take the money and get a new job. I’m starting to get angry.

Great! I was wondering how you were doing. Good for you!!!

Glad you’re seeing the positive now.

I got put up for redundancy about 18 months ago and whilst my position ended up secure it made me really pissed off and I ended up leaving anyway.

I decided I wasn’t going to wait for them to deign to tell me I was good enough to stay so I spoke to a recruiter and landed a new job.

Within a year I’m earning 50% more than when I left my old company.

Screw them, loyalty doesn’t pay.