Urgent help needed - son now on part time education2

[Missythecat]

Posted this in SN board but really need advice so posting here for traffic.

Please can I ask for some urgent advice.

Ongoing issues with my 6yo at school. On help plan since October. He is basically running around school, trying to escape, unable to stay in classroom, physically violent when confined.

He is fine at home but then I'm used to him.

Referalls are in but so far no official diagnosis. SEMH and school in a meeting today have put him on part time hours. Only able to attend until 1030 each day. They are looking for a special school placement but no availability as yet.

Trouble is I'm a single parent, no family and work full time. Not sure I won't lose my job as I now can't turn up.

What do I do? Looking at nannies (which I can't afford but anyway). What immediate help can I get or what should I do?

Sorry for long rambling post. Utterly lost at the moment. Any advice gratefully received

They cannot, legally, put him in a part time time table without your consent. However they may sell it to you as ‘avoiding exclusion’.

If however he is excluded, it will be fixed term first (a few times) before it gets to permanent, once he is at risk of permanent exclusion, or has been, then he is ‘missing education’ and funnily enough, you get bumped up the list to the few specula school/ assisted places that become available!

Exclusion can help you get what you need but you may not need to get that far. You do not have to accept a part time time table. However, if he has got to this stage then he is overwhelmed and things need to change, a part time timetable may be best for him. What have school put in place so far to support him?

I suppose yes, full time exclusion was discussed but viewed as not a good option. I need him in school for a bit of the time to complete the assessments.

So far, they have put in different plans which he has only partially and inconsistently responded to. Effectively he refuses to do work after 1030 each day.

They gave him a 121 TA which helped a little but not a lot.

The exclusion officer from the LEA was there today and said he will push to get DS priority for a special school.

What a difficult situation? Are school adamant he has to do part-time? I suspect if he is violent then they are trying to mitigate the risk of him hurting other student and members of staff that aren’t properly trained to safely restrain students. That is a very difficult situation all round.

I am guessing his behaviour rules out child minders or babysitters.

He is not like this for babysitters or childminders or me. Bit hyper but not violent. His behaviour is very focused around school as he struggles massively with a school setting.