Anxiety in pregnancy and psycho Dr

[Lishu18]

I have a 10 month old baby girl and am due again in May (yes i knw...wasnt planned! But very welcome!)
My 1st pregnancy i was very anxious. I have ME, severe migrains, dizziness and vertigo at the best of times. My anxiety kicked in due to horrible dizzy spells wen cooking, going down stairs or standing for too long. Got ref'd to a pregnancy psychologist. In the last trimester it kinda all went away. This pregnancy is a lot smoother. However, psychologist has "diagnosed" me with "severe OCD about my daughters health and my wellbeing". Im so tired of being labled and judged. It seems that no matter wat i do it seems to be wrong. Ive inly been to docs 3 times in 10 months about my daughter. 1 bcus she cried everytime she done a wee or poo so health visitor advised i get her checked out, 2 becus she had a fall and hurt her face very close to her eye causing bruising around eye area and i just wanted to be sure it wasnt anything serious, 3 bcus i was changing about 12 poo nappies a day and just wanted advice as it didnt seem normal and all mum friends i askd suggested i get her checked out. But psycho dr wrote a report to social and health visiting team and adult mental health saying i need healp as im "overly obsessed". His report was full of random diagnosis and he jst twisted everything. Now i have social services, health visitors and adult mental health visiting me to try and "support me with my OCD and anxiety". It took me a while to get help with my anxiety and i was told off for leaving it too long. But it seems that no matter wat i do its wrong. Im so sick off it all. All i do is turn up for followup appointments and he tells me off for going! If i miss them i get a call telling me off!
Was i wrong for getting bubba checked out? Any1 else had anxiety during pregnancy? Seriously sixk of being judged and labled!

Why are you looking at it as 'being judged'? Those people are just trying to help you..... what is the judgement?
OCD is a diagnosis not a moral judgement. It doesn't mean they think youre a bad mother or a bad person.
I had PND and I had to be seen by the perinatal mental health team, in hospital and every day for a month after my child was born. I was stressed about it but they were really helpful and lovely.

I think your anxiety might be making you think people are thinking badly of you when they are not.
I know how hard it is having people in your home or having to go and see people all the time but it is better than having no support. Try and not be defensive you arent being attacked they are just trying to work out how best to help you.
I hope your anxiety starts to improve

I appreciate ir comments but i think u may hav msd the point i was making. The OCD diagnosis seems to be based on 3 visits re bubba to gp in 10 months, and me attending followup appointments re my ME, migrains and vertigo. If i say i dont wanna go i get a call saying "why dont u wanna attend? U need to lookafter ur self so ur well enuff to lookafter ur baby". But if i do attend then Dr psycho trlls me im visiting gp too much and need to stop obsessing over my health. Im not obsessing over my health. Im jst attending appointments i am given. I knw how much some people have to wait to be seen by all these specialists, i rather someone who really needs the support be getting it than them spending all this time and money on me. I was offered anxiety pills last pregnancy but there was a risk of them affecting baby. I decided not to take them and was told "if u want to be a good mum u will take them". I decided to give them a try and my baby stopped growing and was born underweight. I was then told that i "was given the choice, i shud hav put baby first, not my anxiety."
My husbands English is very weak. He often asks me to help him. I was told to "stop speaking for him as thats controlling behaviour and let him talk". So i asked hubby if i cud not interpret for him at nxt visit and he really struggled. Pshycho Dr wrote in my report that i was "not very supportive of my husband". It seems no matter wat i do the Psychologist has a problem with it. My health visitor, midwife and gp gave their input and said that my daughter and i were doing really well and that we had a warm bond. He put that down as me "exhibiting such behaviour" and that it was "superficial". He asked several times about ny anxiety and i explained how this pregnancy is much smoother and as im on new meds for migraun and vertigo im feeling better hence less anxiety. In his report he put that "she denies having anxiety issues similar to her last pregnancy and denies her obsessive thoughts". I just dont get wat his diagnosis is based on. He seems to be obsessed with labeling ny each move. I just dont think its necessary.
Ihe asked me about a domestic violence incident noted on my med records. i explained wat hpnd. He wrote in my report that i " had an argument with a family member and appeared to be overly stressed by it".