Can I reply "maybe" to a wedding invite?

[thatmustbenigelwiththebrie]

OH and I have been invited to the evening do of the wedding of one of his friends.

I don't know her super well, I've only met her a few times through him.

It's quite close to Easter and I was thinking if the weather was good I might take some time off work and go on holiday (in the UK so can be arranged last minute).

If I did, I would be away for the wedding. If the weather's crap I shan't bother and would be able to go.

Is it rude to say "maybe" or should I just decline?

Decline politely

Saying maybe is letting her know she’s a 2nd option & you don’t care.

Yes, it is rude to say 'maybe' for those reasons.

OK, that's what I thought too. Thanks.

No - they will have a date to confirm numbers, if you don't come they might want to ask someone else. Turn it down if you're not sure.

Incredibly rude in the circumstances, basically saying “yes unless I organise something better in which case eff your special day”.

I understand you hedging your bets, as it is just the evening do and not the entire wedding, but it would be in the best interest of the bride and groom for them to have clarity asap, ie decide one way or another and let them know soon.

Yes very rude

You need to either accept or decline. The bride and groom need to know actual numbers not possible numbers.

How can you think it is anything other than incredibly rude.

Options traders are the absolute worst! Either yes, you go, or no, you don't. There is absolutely no excuse for a "maybe, unless I get a better offer" Height of CF-ery...

I'm not surprised this has been asked, because so many people have a hedging bets attitude even when they accept an invitation. It's why I gave up trying to organise any sort of social event.

At least the OP bothered to ask and didn't just accept the invitation thinking she could decline it later, so good for you, OP.

It would be rude to say “maybe” for those reasons.