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Isn’t a walk around an old cemetery fascinating?

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CormoranStrike · 28/01/2019 12:52

Today I found two amazing names - a man called Pelham Brodie and a woman called Dalmeny Edmonstone Black - plus a confederate soldier who died leading his men in battle in Kentucky and a naval officer who survived being ice-locked in his ship for two years and who died with his crew when they attempted to walk to Canada to escape.

All this in Edinburgh!

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EastMidsGPs · 29/01/2019 07:42

This sounds daft but after hearing a song lyric which stayed with me - something like:
They say you die twice, once when they bury you in your grave and the second time when no one can remember your name (might not be exact quote)

I always read out loud the names on the graves I pass on my weekly walk through our churchyard and any other cemetery I find myself wandering in.

Falo · 29/01/2019 07:47

Our village graveyard has a stone which reads something like:

John Smith 52
Mark Smith 18
Paul Smith 15
David Smith 11
Robert Smith 4

Lost at sea

Always makes me feel awful. I presume its the father and sons who went out and never came back. So awful for the mother.

GnothiSeafton · 29/01/2019 07:53

"There's a huge cemetery and Crematorium along the A3 but I can't remember the name of it. I bet that's interesting." I think that's Putney Vale, ToEarlyForDecorations.

There's a mausoleum in Mortlake cemetery for Sir Richard Burton (1800s explorer) and his wife. "The couple are buried in a remarkable tomb in the shape of a Bedouin tent, designed by Isabel in the cemetery of St Mary Magdalen Roman Catholic Church Mortlake in southwest London. The coffins of Sir Richard and Lady Burton can be seen through a window at the rear of the tent, which can be accessed via a short fixed ladder." A friend of mine pays a bi-annual visit, once in the Spring and once in the Autumn (RB was born in a March, died in an October) to pay his respects.

Isn’t a walk around an old cemetery fascinating?
crimsonlake · 29/01/2019 07:54

I am with you and find them endlessly fascinating. Recently at the Anglican Cathedral in Liverpool I was walking around the graves and spotted a Captain, I now cannot remember his name. I looked him up on google and it directed me to the Maritime archives. He was from New York and his ship had collided with another ship around the Great Orme in North Wales. He was blamed and was fined a great deal of money at the time, his life then went downhill and he committed suicide in a hotel room in Liverpool. Utterly fascinating, then thinking about the wife and 5 children he left behind in New York and what became of them.

VenusClapTrap · 29/01/2019 10:11

There is a tiny etching on my bedroom window; ‘W G Dolling, Hinton St George’ in curly Victorian script. It’s only really visible on sunny mornings in winter when the sun is low and hits the window at a certain angle. We’d lived in the house for a couple of years before I spotted it.

Hinton St George is hundreds of miles from here. I did some research on Ancestry and discovered that William George was the grandson of the couple who lived in this house at that time. He died of TB on Valentines Day in 1888, aged only 21. His father, the rector of Hinton St George, died two years later. His only sibling, an older brother, died unmarried and childless, a decade later. His mother lived on for another decade, in a cottage near the church where her family were all buried, and close to the rectory where she had raised her two boys. That must have been so hard, to survive them all like that.

I went to find William’s grave there, last summer. On it, hidden under moss, was a bible passage about love being the greatest gift. I sat on the grass in front of the little row of Dolling graves and said hello, and told William that thanks to his little bit of bored schoolboy graffiti a century ago, he is not forgotten, even though the family had no descendants to remember them.

Starlight90 · 29/01/2019 10:54

I love visiting them! There is one in my village, and its a very small village, very rural, no shop no school no bus where a 19 yr old man died during WW1 in a far away place, i cant even remember where. Makes me wonder that the poor soul had no idea where he was going in the world.

BentNeckLady · 29/01/2019 17:47

venus I love that Smile

bagsofbats · 29/01/2019 17:56

This charity advises on how burial grounds can be managed for the benefit of the living and the heritage they contain www.caringforgodsacre.org.uk

MakeItAmazing · 29/01/2019 18:28

Bisquick I'm so sorry for the loss of your little boy. If you'd like to tell us his name I'll certainly say it out loud and think of him. Your post brought me to tears Flowers.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 29/01/2019 18:33

There’s an old one near mum and dads old house. There’s a small ruined building in the centre - probably not a church, maybe a mausoleum (size of a tiny cottage or very large shed)? Anyway it’s all overgrown with brambles and weeds, and the stones are mostly toppled and broken.

I was in the small ruin poking around the broken stones inside and lost track of time. It was getting dark when a bloody cat came hurtling at me out of the dark. I almost peed myself.

crosser62 · 29/01/2019 18:34

During Heritage week in September one of our local cemeteries run tours given by volunteers.
They research all of the graves, tell you about the meanings of the designs of the graves and symbols on them.
They tell you about the people in the graves, their lives and deaths.

It’s utterly fascinating and I didn’t want it to end, I go every year as different volunteers tell you about the different graves as there are so many.

I’ve looked around cemeteries since I was a child, they are strangely comforting and calming places.

Glad I’m not the only weirdo in the world !

TheGreenDot · 29/01/2019 19:07

I love a graceyard wander too.
My DP also thinks I’m odd as I love to photograph them.
I’ve been to a graceyard in Singapore, very interesting to see the style of another culture.

Scandaloso · 29/01/2019 19:16

Oh, @Bisquick I'm so sorry for your loss. Your story shows why graveyards are such moving places. For all our failings most people are empathetic creatures and I'm sure many people in the years to come will stop at your son's plaque, say his name aloud and spend a few moments thinking of him. Flowers

Scandaloso · 29/01/2019 19:23

And @VenusClapTrap what a brilliant tale and what a touching thing for you to have done. Poor William, and his poor mum. I don't know how people coped in those days where losing all your loved ones was such a commonplace experience.

RavenclawWriter · 29/01/2019 19:29

I live right by a church with quite an extensive graveyard around it. I often take my dog for a walk through there and I love looking at the stones. Lots of old ones as well as some new. It's lovely when I see flowers or other markers put on some of the old graves as well as the newer ones. It's nice they are being remembered by someone.

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 30/01/2019 16:43

I agree. I've been on the tour of Highgate cemetery twice - highly recommended.

Vintagewannabe · 30/01/2019 16:56

We have a Victorian cemetery close by and often visit. It’s so sad most of the graves are for children or young adults. Some are beautiful big monuments and one there is a white lady laid with her baby. The baby died in infancy and the mother died just after. Local talk is sometimes through the night babies cry’s have been heard from that side of the cemetery Sad. So much money and thought into loved ones final resting places is amazing, these days it’s a square stone in the grass :(

ChickiePeaPie · 30/01/2019 17:01

Just looked at that property and it's amazing! Sadly Norfolk is the opposite side of the country to me. Someone here must be close by?

squishee · 31/01/2019 10:19

I like graveyards, in small doses. Know the Père Lachaise well, and have been to Arlington cemetery. Both are massive. My favourite though is a plague cemetery and ossuary (Saint-Maclou) in Rouen. Fascinating.

FaultInMyStars · 04/02/2019 20:27

@VenusClapTrap - I absolutely adore your story! Sounds very much like something I would do!

Curlyshabtree · 04/02/2019 20:34

We are lucky to live near a large multi faith cemetery. It is truly fascinating but also heart breaking. My DS1 is buried there with all the other little babies,

I used to walk there lots when dts were babies, such a peaceful oasis in the middle of the city.
We’re also close to another cemetery opposite the hospital. Lots of paupers graves, so much history, so much tragedy.

Accountant222 · 04/02/2019 20:40

I also love old cemeteries, the one in Scarborough is amazing

TheGonnagle · 04/02/2019 20:45

Should you ever find yourself in Penang there’s a fabulous cemetery in Georgetown called Northern Cemetery. It is planted with ancient frangipani trees and is incredibly beautiful. And interesting.

elfycat · 04/02/2019 20:55

I love cemeteries, and keep meaning to go back to Highgate.

I feel the same with war memorials. We had a picnic on a bench in the park of Tower Hill Memorial and in the WW1 memorial was a little poppy blu-tacked next to a name. It really struck me that someone travels in to remember this man who died over a hundred years before and I wonder who it is that stuck it there.