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I have social anxiety and have an interview and in petrified!!

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imSleeping · 28/01/2019 12:17

I feel sick thinking about it. I feel like cancelling it and calling them to say I cant make it. I just want to run away and not deal with it. I can't even prepare for it properly as I am just so anxious thinking anything to do with it. I scared the questions will be really hard and I won't know what to say or freeze. I have having this mental illness. Its so shit. It just ruins so many parts of my life.

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Bastardanxiety · 28/01/2019 12:24

OP, I feel your pain.

Firstly, congratulations on the interview! When is it? And (if you don't mind me asking) what's it for?

You have to remember that these days, just getting an interview is quite an achievement. I have applied for so many jobs recently and rarely even get a thanks, but no thanks reply, so please remember that as scary as it may feel now, it's actually fantastic that you have this interview.

I'm assuming that it's for a job you want?...

imSleeping · 28/01/2019 12:34

Its for a ward clerk at a hospital. The hours for perfectly around my family and baby and there just aren't many jobs with these ideal hours so yes, I really would love it. Its ok Wednesday

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imSleeping · 28/01/2019 12:36

Its on Wednesday. I can't even type properly! Im so nervous. I already cancelled an interview a few weeks ago because I was too scared but I didn't really want that job but now I know deep down I can't keep doing this forever and need to face up to it.

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Bastardanxiety · 28/01/2019 13:20

Please don't cancel. To take the pressure off slightly, remember you're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you.

That said, I appreciate that school hour friendly jobs are like gold dust, so you're bound to feel the pressure.

I know it's a bit cliché, but honestly, just be yourself. Of course, prepare yourself in terms of researching, thinking about all your strengths, all your achievements etc, but don't try to be someone you're not.

Oh and breathe. Slow down. Don't worry about cramming in loads in one sentence and remember, they will expect you to be nervous.

caperplips · 28/01/2019 14:17

I had a big interview last year for dream job. I felt under enormous pressure as I knew in my industry this opportunity would be years before it came up again so it was then or never really.

What helped me was scrutinising the job spec as they had issued it and considering how I would answer all part of it with an relevant 'story' to back up my experience.

I also prepared stock answers such as 'tell us about yourself' so I knew exactly what information I wanted to get across in this way

I also really researched the role and felt confident that I was knowledgable about it

Basically what I am saying is I sat with a friend, in fact I got advice from a couple of people and built a mental map of what they might ask and how I might answer, always with an illustrative example from experience.

Finally, make sure you are on time / early so not flustered. Have a bottle of water with you. Take your time getting settled on the chair, sit comfortably no fidgeting, make a conscious effort to relax your body so your shoulders are not hunched, practice radiating 'open-ness and calm no matter how you feel inside. Practice in front of your mirror!

Take deep breaths and speak slowly. Don't be afraid to say 'could I have a moment to gather my thoughts if you are thrown something left field.

It worked - I got the job!

Good luck - you can do it!!

SophieGiroux · 28/01/2019 14:54

See if you can get some beta blockers prescribed. They are amazing for stopping your heart beating crazy, shaking and going red. Will make you feel so much more confident. Good luck with the interview, you might as well go as you've nothing to lose.

amusedbush · 28/01/2019 15:02

I feel your pain, I have an interview for my dream job on Monday and I feel ill at the thought. It's a massive promotion too, and my confidence has been knocked after eight unsuccessful interviews last year.

I'm constantly told I was great/I was appointable/I was the reserve candidate/I finished top three... but. Always "but" Sad

Greycat11 · 28/01/2019 15:59

You could try Bachs Rescue Remedy spray, really helps me to calm down in situations like that. Good luck.

hendricksy · 28/01/2019 16:06

Do you know what if you weren't terrified then it would be weird . I don't have social anxiety but as a average person I get very scared for interviews and I mostly always get the job .. I was going back to a job I've done before recently and I was scared , I almost didn't go . Everyone feels like you so just go and do your best !

Lightlover2018 · 28/01/2019 16:10

I agree with Sophie, you need beta blockers like Propanolol. They remove the physical feelings of anxiety. Your doc should def prescribe some but you will need to get an appointment quickly!

imSleeping · 28/01/2019 21:50

I don't have time to book an appointment!

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imSleeping · 28/01/2019 21:53

Oh I hope you get the job! amusedbush

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ilovebruuuceandbags · 28/01/2019 22:29

Good luck! My GP prescribed me Propranolol over a telephone appointment for this very thing! Ring them - its brilliant!

amusedbush · 29/01/2019 07:04

imSleepingj

Fingers and toes crossed for both of us! 🤞🏻

imSleeping · 30/01/2019 12:39

I've just had the interview and I feel so shit. I messed up some of the questions and I think I was too vague with the others because I was too nervous. They sort of just looked at me thinking what on earth. I've home exhausted and don't know if I can keep doing this. I feel so ashamed.

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imSleeping · 01/02/2019 11:47

They called today. I didn't get the job as expected which I knew but it's still shit getting a rejection.

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