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Am I being unreasonable?

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Stressedmam · 27/01/2019 19:26

If been with my partner for 10yrs. I have a small cleaning buisness, an a 14yr old son with asd. i stay at his every night with my son. I pay 50pw rent. I do all the cleaning cooking laundry. I get up at 5am to make his packed lunch an coffee. I feel like a maid not a partner. I dnt have sex with him anymore I just don't like it. When I tell him am tired an need help. He says he will help but never does. If we argue he tells me I dnt live with him. If that's the case why do i pay rent? If we go out on a weekend I pay for half of everythink. He goes out every Friday an sunday, if i complain he says am jealous. I'm not jealous I'm tierd. I worked out his monthly outgoings on the house an it comes to 216£. As his mortgage is 6£pm. I'm not ugly an im 21yrs younger than him. Is he using me or am I being unreasonable? I'm actually writing this with tears strolling down my face. Xxxx

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HappyBumbleBee · 27/01/2019 19:34

It sounds like he's using you, I'm sorry :-(
You are paying rent AND doing all the chores aswell as paying half of everything. He's not treating you like a partner - it's he ever nice to you?
Can you take steps to move into your own place with your son?

marvellousnightforamooncup · 27/01/2019 19:39

You're not fucking Cinderella, LTB! Seriously, you're wasting your life with this arse. Flowers

Drogosnextwife · 27/01/2019 19:42

His mortgage is £6pm? Are you sure? If that's the case you are paying all his bills. Just leave him.

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Stressedmam · 27/01/2019 19:43

He can be nice to me, when it suits him. I'm saving as much as i can to have my own home an all furniture i need. X

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Stressedmam · 27/01/2019 19:45

Yes as he doesnt want the deeds in his house he pays £6pm as only owes £2000. I feel like am starting to see what's going on around me.

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Chingling · 27/01/2019 19:53

does you son ever stay at your home? do you have a home?

SoyDora · 27/01/2019 20:01

You stay at his every night, pay him rent and don’t have a place of your own yet he says you don’t live with him? Where does he think you live then?

juniperbushes · 27/01/2019 20:15

He is treating you like his personal slave and making you pay for the privilege. You need to get out of this situation.

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Stressedmam · 27/01/2019 20:34

I gave up my flat as it would be cheaper for us to cohabit but he says now I dnt live there. But then he says I do an he loves me. He just has me so confused.

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