Newborn at a funeral

[Endofrelationship]

My gran has just died. Funeral likely to be in the next week or 2, about an hour from ours.

I had a c section 8 days ago and so can't drive and have an 8 day old. To go to the funeral I'm going to have to take her. Do you think people will mind? I think they'd mind me taking baby less than me not attending at all.

Also, anyone know of any breastfeeding friendly funeral attire? It'll likely be a formal affair.

I think it is fine and it reminds people of the circle of life and brings some little relief.

But if you are not up to going I think that is fine too.

There is a good Facebook group called can I breast feed in that which might help you find anything.

I took dc3 to my nans funeral - she was about 3 weeks. I sat at the back ready to take her out if she cried. However my nan had requested before her death that all her great grandchildren attend.

I'd check first though

Im sorry for your loss. I think a newborn is absolutely fine at a funeral. Breastfeeding wise I would think you’ll be easer in a skirt and top with a stroppy too under for ‘one up one down’ rather than a dress unless it’s a specific breastfeeding dress. ‘Can I breastfeed in it UK’ is a fab group on Facebook though if you post what you’re looking for I bet someone will find you a suitable outfit in no time!

It's fine. Plus baby will most likely be asleep most of the day. It might cheer people up that day. I had to take my 12 month old to a funeral and evryone was so happy to see him and it lightened the mood a little. We had to take him since we had no one to watch him that day. Everything was fine.

Sorry for your loss. I had the same but ds was 6 weeks.
I loaded him up with milk before and he slept the entire time. I didn't take him into the service but got dh to take him a walk. 30 mins and then I had him for the wake.

I personally wouldn't have taken him into the service as I would have been stressed about making a scene/ noise.
30 mins in the pram/ car won't do them any harm

I'd forgotten about that group on Facebook, thanks.

I'll talk to my mum and see what she thinks, but I'd hate to miss it. Thankfully she's a very contented little thing so you barely notice she's there.

I'm definitely up to going, been out every day so far. But I'm not able to leave the baby yet.

I could get DH to take her for a walk during the service.

@Endofrelationship so sorry for your loss.
I have found these dresses for you to take a look at:

https://www.seraphine.com/en-gb/a-line-navy-blue-maternity-nursing-dress.html

www.seraphine.com/en-gb/black-maternity-wrap-dress.html

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A sling is your friend here. My DS will stay asleep for as long as needed while snuggled up in the sling. I even took him to the cinema with DS1 and he didn’t wake the whole time.

Thanks for those @MsSquiz they look perfect.

Eminybob I'm borrowing a black stretchy from a friend as my wrap is inappropriately coloured for the occasion.

We took DD to a funeral when she was very small. Family liked it.

I was ready to take her out if she cried so DH could stay. I wore a black vest and trousers and a black and yellow top that could be discretely lifted up for feeding (the vest / top combo became my go to while breastfeeding).