Do any of your primary children play for a club football team???

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And if so if their coach told some of them before a match the reason you are not in the first team is because your touches are not good and then after losing a match even though played well and lost 4-2 told them they were diabolical would you be very happy???

They are in an under 11 squad.

That person should not be coaching kids football!

I am quite shocked and my ds was so upset after the match.

My son plays (he’s 8) and I coach for the same club.
No coach should be saying that to players, the whole ethos of Under-11s is to develop a love of the game whilst developing the players.
Saying that to them is only going to make them feel like their efforts aren’t good enough and that his priority is the first team. We had 2 teams as well (a ‘first’ team and a ‘development’ team)but have recently changed to having 2 equal strength teams as we find this works better for all the players.

At their age it is all about positive reinforcement and focusing on the things that go well. Winning is a symptom of a good team under a good coach, losing is a symptom of a good team under a substandard coach.
Before every game we get the team together and remind them that we want them to go out and enjoy themselves, that winning isn’t important. We ask them to focus on using one of the skills we have focussed on in training that week and that that is all we are looking for.

To my kids, I'd have laughed it off and shown them a clip of Brian Glover in Kes. Grown men are to be laughed at when they get so wound up about inconsequential stuff.

I'd also have a word with the coach, and let them know they're behaving badly. They can't be losing their temper with kids like that.

Its pretty much against FA policy.

My DS is 12 and he's been playing for the same team since he was 7. They always rotated roles and everyone had equal playing time, regardless of how good they are. Its only this past year some kids have started specialising in certain positions and they still have equal playing time.

The coach would never ever say they were shit, though he might talk about fitness and working harder. Anyone improving slightly gets masses of praise.

Totally goes against the whole ethos/point etc of youth football. No idea who the ruling body is, but I’d report and complain. It’s kids football not the World Cup!

I'd be finding another team. We're very lucky to have fantastic coaches but I have seen some awful behaviour from coaches (always men) with really awful attitudes and shouldn't have anything to do with kids football.

I'd report this to whoever is in overall charge at the club.

Like previous poster said, the coaches comments go against everything youth football is about.

Having said that I know it does go on, DSs team played another local under 8s team and the coach was vile to the kids, screaming and shouting. I'd not be letting my DS play for a team where that's acceptable conduct for a coach.

The leagues are riddled with coaches like this and even generally ok coaches and parents get ridiculous in the height of emotion living their football manager dreams.

Teams are set up by people willing to coach, so you can complain about them, but essentially its their team so you have to find another.

It makes me want to set up my own to be honest