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High staff turnover and one awful person who stays there for years

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Annoyance · 26/01/2019 18:34

Years ago I worked somewhere with a toxic person whose behaviour caused me so much stress that I ended up becoming very ill so I had to leave my job.

I did say at the time that she was the one causing all the stress for everyone else.

I've just had a look at that company's website and apart from the partners I barely recognise anyone's names, but this toxic woman is still there doing the same job.

This really doesn't surprise me at all. Maybe lots of people keep leaving because of her. I'm strangely fascinated. Even one of the long-serving, long-suffering people seem to have finally left.

OP posts:

OhDearBeer · 27/01/2019 09:56

Marsha that's very interesting. So much my experience.

GummyGoddess · 27/01/2019 10:01

Our team had a new manager, only 2 of us left now, me on maternity and a colleague who works 2 days a week only. Every time someone has quit or moved area they have told HR why but nothing is ever done. She's had warnings for ridiculous behaviour but it just made her sneakier.

Raglansleeve · 27/01/2019 10:02

DH’s awful person left just before Christmas - he reckons everyone’s floating around as if a huge weight has been lifted from their collective shoulders. Woman had worked there 25 years +, moody prickly, often downright rude, deemed herself indispensable. Moaned about everything, refused to move with times.

Had been asked for years to document procedures and tasked but never did - DH reckons because she didn’t want anyone to know what she actually did (and to make herself seem indispensable). Since she left he’s had to unpick the crap that she’s been doing for years and it turns out she was incompetent, inefficient etc etc.

And yet, no-one ever pulled her up on her behaviour.

This is In a university setting.

DandilionBreak · 27/01/2019 10:05

I had a really nasty supervisor, when I was in a temporary role in retail. She was very friendly and chatty but then I started to notice how she always left me out of the information loop. I was in the store a week before I knew there was a base room for our dept, never mind where it was. I was complained about, senior management were told I'd sworn at her, that I was undermining her authority, that I was having private conversations that didn't include her.....I told the store manager my side and she offered to get it sorted, but I'd had enough. Minimum wage doesn't mean I need to take abuse. I just walked. The bitch is still there, and I do enjoy walking past her in the store.

Onglue · 27/01/2019 10:06

HR are ineffective at dealing with this sort of behaviour, so people move on rather than trying to sort it out. I know I did. Ultimately the company suffers because constantly hiring and training new staff is expensive.

DocusDiplo · 27/01/2019 10:10

Yep. So many lives ruined. Makes me very upset.

BS @ Empressjewel

CaptainMarvelDanvers · 27/01/2019 10:32

I worked in a place with a prickly intolerant boss and a bonkers colleague.

Spent a lot of time trying to not piss either one off.

JeezOhGeeWhizz · 27/01/2019 10:36

Seen this a few times too. It is monumentally frustrating to watch.

BearSoFair · 27/01/2019 10:42

This is definitely the case in my job. We're a small shop, total staff team of 6. We have one guy who has been in the shop for 10 years, he's awful, always stirring and bitching and generally causing trouble between the rest of the team. I've been in the shop for 3 years and have seen 4 people specifically name him as their reason for leaving yet somehow he never even gets spoken to!

Bluelonerose · 27/01/2019 10:46

One job one woman could get away with stealing but if anyone complained they would be got rid of.

Another the boss hated me and would deliberalty try to give me wrong information and fuck my time off up. I cheered when she left. It wasn't until my new boss said to me "your completly different to what old boss told me about you" I didn't ask but it did dent my self esteem as at all my appraisals everything was perfect.

HPface · 27/01/2019 10:49

I had 2 in a previous workplace. One was my manager, utterly useless at her job and a complete bully. The other was just a lazy colleague who refused to do any work and called in sick all the time.

It got to the point where I had to officially make a complaint about my manager as she was making my working life hell and I was having to do her work as well as my own. Management didn't care, told my manager I'd complained about her and told us to work it out between us. I then handed my notice in.

The company now isn't doing very well and had to make redundancies to reduce the workforce. Those 2 women are still there though...

Rachel0Greep · 27/01/2019 10:57

Worked with a very toxic individual. It's extraordinary how someone can bully, exclude and undermine, while keeping up a pretence with a big smiley face and a fake 'nice guy' persona.
HR among others would have sworn this guy was the nicest person imaginable.
He has done so much damage but managed to leave no evidence.
I hope some day he gets what he deserves.

NeverTwerkNaked · 27/01/2019 11:02

@EmpressJewel I am astonished at the nonsense you have just sprouted. I left a loved career after a year in a team with a bullying boss left me in shreds. Only as I left did her secretary tell me that no one has lasted more than a year or so working for that woman. The rest of the team left shortly after me.

I know have a really successful career doing the same job elsewhere, I love it and get fantastic client feed back.

I cannot believe someone who works in HR could be that naive. Sometimes it is entirely one sided.

Hushnownobodycares · 27/01/2019 11:06

Another who recognises this phenomenon.

My theory is the toxic long serving manager knew where the bodies were buried...

Effendi · 27/01/2019 11:06

Bullying allowed to happen in view and hearing of manager.
Brushed under carpet.
Bully friends with manager.
Been there for years.

The fall out of complaining actually worse that the bullying. Would never do it again.

notacooldad · 27/01/2019 11:08

Op Your story is my story as well!!!

whosafraidofabigduckfart · 27/01/2019 11:11

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nordicwannabe · 27/01/2019 13:44

I had a toxic boss for several years.

He was promoted from the same level as me, and initially I was pleased because I respected him as a colleague and thought he would do a good job.

Sadly, he was very control- and fear- driven. He made unreasonable demands, tried to exert ever-more-detailed control, didn't listen to anyone, and also tried to shame people. None of this sat well with our very experienced, professional team! A lot of people left (mostly for different 'official' reasons). I got eczema and recurring stomach aches: I only realised that they were caused by the stress of being managed by him when he changed role and they disappeared.

Eventually, he was moved sideways out of management. I'm working with him as an equal colleague again now, thank goodness. I do actually like working with the guy - just hated being managed by him. I don't think it was really his fault that he was such a terrible manager - his character and skill-set just wasn't suited to it.

(His replacement is great, and very popular.)

Chocolateandabook2019 · 27/01/2019 13:54

It's extraordinary how someone can bully, exclude and undermine, while keeping up a pretence with a big smiley face and a fake 'nice guy' persona.
HR among others would have sworn this guy was the nicest person imaginable.
He has done so much damage but managed to leave no evidence

^ This. Plus what @Effendi wrote. Only it’s a she in my case.

Chocolateandabook2019 · 27/01/2019 13:55

Bold fail, sorry.

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