10yr old has started screaming the house down every time he has to have a shower.

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Just that really. He was like this when he was younger but grew out of It. Now it's starting again. It takes over an hour just to get him in it he screams, breaks things, threatens to call the police. It's never ending. It upsets my other two and I just don't know what to do. There is no talking to him as he gets in such a rage.

Has this happened to anyone else?

Have you asked him when he's calm why he doesn't like showers / baths. Mine loves water but hates changing clothes and that's why he hates them. He does like animal onesies though that are fleece so one of those helps.

I have tried to but he avoids the question.

Shower hater here too, DD is 11 nearly 12. Best thing we ever did was play music /radio in there (it was mainly shower noises for my DD). She now mostly gets in without issues as long as she has her playlist and the bloody door open. You could also try placing a sock over the shower head which makes the flow slower and more gentle.

Another bath refuser here! Last summer I could only get DD to have a 'wash' by letting her run through the sprinkler in the garner whilst I chased her with shampoo and conditioner . Thank goodness it was a hut summer and she quite like her paddling pool too! she hated and refused baths then (ASD too).

Eventually managed to get her in the bath by letting her wear her Frozen swimsuit. Not ideal but at least I could wash hair etc. Bought a few new bath toys and fun sponges and she gets to pick bathbubbles etc from the shop. She is younger than your DC (4) but it seems that she was somehow able to get over her refusing bath phase despite the sensory difficulties. She quite enjoys a bath now. Let's just hope it lasts...

Would he do a sponge bath? If he just filled the tub a couple of inches and washed with a sponge.

Also agree with PP who suggested a letter to school. They should be able to make allowances.

Another thing that works for us is that a bath pec is on the weekly visual timetable on say Tues, Thurs and Sun.

Thanks for the advice. I tried to talk to him about it this morning and he instantly went on the defensive. He did tell me though (while hitting a door) that he doesn't like baths as sitting in his own dirt. I pointed out that he would be less dirty by having a bath. Oh and showers feel nasty and he could slip and die.

A shower/anti-slip mat? Or sitting down shower,?

My son also has a Bluetooth shower speaker. He lays in bath and watches you tube on iPad with shower still running - and can hear it 😂

If my son could get youTube in the bath we'ld probably never get him out of the bath

Haha I think he would too or if there was a way of playing Fortnite he would live in there.

Thank you so much for the social story I read it to him today and it seemed to strike a chord and tonight he got in with less stress. It wasn't perfect buy he was definitely better than the rest of the week. That may also be to do with the lack of school today and the fact he spent most of the day watching tipping point with his great nan.