Sorry I couldn't decide what topic to put this in. MN can move if not appropriate.
Ex and I split up 3 years ago. We have a 4 year old DD. Up until two weeks ago he was having regular contact decided between us. He has always paid his maintenance. He had a partner for most of this time.
I have stopped contact two weeks ago. Ex is unsurprisingly going mad and has seen his solicitor today. What can I expect next? I've no doubt they will force me to hand over DD. I am prepared for that. But i'm hoping this will shock him into realising how serious I am.
I stopped contact for a number of reasons. The person he is today is not the person I had a child with. Think of the difference between Walter at the beginning of breaking bad and then at the end. His life is going down the plug hole and I will not allow him to take DD along with him.
Main reasons are: never feeding her appropriate breakfast (giving chocolate from his nightstand in the morning so he doesn't have to get up), never brushing her teeth, regularly speeding and talking on his phone with her in the car (he has 13 points and only still has his licence after pleading with the judge). Taking her to inappropriate places to spend the day with awful people you would not want around your child. Not peadophiles but known criminals, rough people basically. Having her for a few hours and then leaving her at his mums all weekend. Not wiping her properly after the toilet (shes come home with a red raw vagina stinking of wee). He has split up with his partner a few months ago and is now dating someone new. Think Vicki Pollard but skinny.
I absolutely cannot send DD there again until he sorts himself out. I have no idea what has happened to him but this is not the life I wanted for DD. He literally does not seem to care.
I know none of these reasons are good enough for a judge to stop contact. I really want to know what timescales I'm probably looking at before I have to hand her over again.
Thanks for reading.