How would you feel if your kid got this for a gift?

[RHOF]

I'm a self confessed lefty and feminist. Do you think this is an okay gift to give for a 3 year old? Or a bit too much?

@eurochick, glad you liked my gift

I'd roll my eyes too, utterly patronising gift

This would be the perfect example why I cringe when people have to announce they are feminists.

Ugh I’d hate that. I’d be delighted if you got my child a book that demonstrated feminism, as per lots mentioned above, but not one that lectures him on it.

And as a feminist I would feel extremely patronised. And possibly wondering what “anti-feminist” behaviour you thought you’d observed that made you feel this was necessary.

And would feel that 3yo is too young to understand the concept of feminism.

And would wonder what the CND symbol on the back was about.

So it’s a firm no really

It's not your place to impose your social and political beliefs/opinions on other peoples' children.

Just let a 3 year old be a 3 year old. Children don't need to have 'agendas' pushed on them.

I'd of liked my daughter to receive it (albeit surprised) but not sure I'd be brave enough to give it....

It wouldn't offend me, but It's achingly try hard.

I would think you were virtue signalling.

it's more about you than the recipient.

The paperbag princess :)

I’d piss myself laughing. Then stop laughing and feel offended because the sender is obviously trying to say I’m not capable of teaching my own son about equality. I’m afraid it would go straight in the bin. As pp have said it’s a gift to signal your own politics, not a gift for the child.

If my child was given that I would take it to mean I wasn't raising them in a feminist enough manner for you. I can tell that's not how you mean it from the tone of your posts, but to be honest it would upset me 🤷🏼‍♀️

1. Pissed off. I can teach my dd about feminism without your unsolicited input.
2. Disappointed. I’d also think you to be a special brand of feminist, the ying of the misogynist so to speak. Why buy a car or doll when you can give them a useless book?
3. I’d want to give you a wide berth.

If you gave it to my 10 yo I’d still find it odd. But a little less inappropriate. It still isn’t your job to parent my child.

Certainly no intention to try and parent anyone's child.

I’d feel pissed you were pushing an agenda on the child and would feel tempted to give you a book of famous tories or some such shit for your own birthday to see how you enjoy other people’s agendas being pushed on you.

At three they can't even read and it's a patronising gift.

Very virtuous, but like the goat gift that people do.

TheBigBangRocks I think it’s actually worse than the goat gifts. I think I could just about convince my pre-schooler about the merits of the goat. I can’t imagine the feminism book is up there with Julia Donaldson and id worry it was a dig at my parenting.

Book is off the list. Wooly hat and toy cars ordered.

Sounds sensible!

Surely its more for the adults than the kidsm shouldnt a gift be something that brings joy? What 3yr old would get joy from this? Selfish gift

If you don't know the child well enough then it's odd that you would push a gift like this on them. Why do you care so much?