Have you ever called off a wedding or been jilted ?

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Just curious:)
In the 70s my aunt left my Granny to cancel the wedding and notify the groom and skipped off abroad. She met someone and married there and only returned years and years later.
I never heard what happened to the original groom.

I was once a guest at a friend's wedding who got jilted on the day, she went ahead with the after party and basically had a fuck you celebration.
I admired her guts, to just think fuck it I've paid for it and carry on.
She met someone else years later and that wedding was beautiful and he is lovely unlike wanker number one.

I had a work colleague who had a long term relationship (and kids) with her childhood sweetheart. First wedding was scheduled to be the full-on, all singing, all dancing mega ceremony with all the bells and whistles - he didn't turn up on the day. They re-established a relationship and decided to go much more low-key - family and close friends only. We had the hen do and a week before the date he said he couldn't go through with it. We all took her out on what would have been wedding day mark 2. In the end they just went to the registry office and did it by themselves telling no-one. They are still blissfully happy. Go figure.

I did once help a friend who was bridesmaid to a jilted bride (well, groom called it off about ten days beforehand) to do some of the telephoning around to guests. This was pre-internet/email/text so even though the bride did family, my friend did major caterers and friends, and there was a certain amount of getting people to pass the message on, it had been going to be a big wedding, and there were a lot of people to phone. Deeply awkward.

The bride had a nervous breakdown and became a Buddhist nun.

Yes, I was dumped 2 weeks before a big white wedding. My poor parents were devastated but his parents took responsibility for cancelling everything. I thought I would never recover.

But life went on, I was lucky to have good friends, I bought a flat, got myself a promotion and a few years later (and much happier) I met dh. Married 20 years next month, to a good man.

I worked at a very popular wedding venue in my home town as a teenager. I was PA to the wedding planner so was very involved in all weddings. I have lots of stories of jilted brides and grooms and called off weddings, some for good reasons, some for ridiculous ones!

The worst one though, that still makes me tear up, was this young woman who had overcome cancer and was finally marrying her childhood sweetheart, been together since 16 now 24ish. On the day of the wedding, her husband to be told her that he had a secret child. He’d been cheating on her while she was on her deathbed as he thought she was going to die (actual words used) and chose to tell her on her wedding day about ten minutes before she was due to walk down the aisle so she was completely ready in her dress, hair and make up done.

I was devastated for her she looked so fragile and broken. She still wanted to have the wedding party as a fuck you to him and cancer, so we threw a fuck cancer party for her and all her guests. Her ex called me a few weeks later to ask for half the money back, it was a firm no from us.

I had two co workers two years apart that had the grooms cancel a few weeks before the weddings. They were friends too. One never married and only dated married men, the other was married to a lying cheat and divorced him after 10 years of marriage. She now has a long term partner that is perfect for her, they have been together 5 years and are happy.