DD, DSD & friend - previous mean behaviour

[fourplusfour]

DD(11) and DSD(12) have a bit of a rocky relationship. Best friends one minute, can't stand each other the next (literally). DSD invited school friend (different school to DD) over a couple of weeks ago and fireworks ensued including some very mean texts/phone calls from friend & DSD to my DD. All dealt with and my DD has no contact with DSD friend. Anyway, today DSD is with school friend for tea, my DD is at an activity and the DSD has tried to call numerous times. Im, understandably a bit anxious about whats likely to be said between them as this friend appears to have quite an influence over DSD. Should I warn my DD that DSD is with her friend when she phones back or should I just keep an ear out and support DD if needed. Can you tell Im expecting it to be explosive?

Does your DD need to call DSD back? Can't she not wait and talk to her when DSD is back from this friend's?

DSD doesn't live with us. DD will see missed calls and may phone her back. Just not sure if I should warn her that DSD is with her friend so anticipate something being said. It may of course all be fine.

Given the particular history I think warning her is a good idea. That way she can decide if she wants to, and isn't taken by surprise.

Thanks for the input. I tend to agree and did tell her, just wasn't sure if it would put the idea of an issue in her head if to her its all old news iyswim. Anyway, DSD didn't answer so any potential fall out avoided for another day.

Maybe in the near future, if your DD gets a call from DSD, then you could answer her phone and hear what he wants? If all is innocent, then no harm done. If the call was going to be malicious, the fact that you answered might deter him from trying again. Might just stop this behaviour.

good idea @fadedred