Is there ANYTHING I can do about ex introducing DD to yet another woman

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DD is 4. We split up when she was 1. In that short time he has had a 2 year relationship with 'jane' and another child. 'Jane' was lovely, doted on DD, DD loved her and her sibling. Ex walked out on them when the baby was 4 months old. I am still in contact with her and DD sees her sibling regularly through this contact. Ex hardly sees this child.

He then had another relationship of six months. Introduced DD after 2 weeks. She was utterly confused and still called going to see her dad 'going to see Daddy and Jane'. She didn't understand what had happened. Eventually this woman was gone, ex dumped her, but not before they had been on a two week holiday. DD came home talking all about 'sarah'.

He then had another relationship of a few months. DD met this one in a hotel room when ex took her away for the weekend and suddenly this woman turned up. DD says she slept in the bed with this woman and daddy. I was apocalyptic with rage that he would let some random woman share a bed with his daughter. He trotted out his usual 'its nothing to do with you what I do with DD on my time, you're just jealous' They eventually split when ex was caught cheating with this new woman.....

Is there anything at all I can do to prevent him introducing DD to yet another woman? We have always had an amicable set up. He pays over the odds maintenance. There is no point in pleading to his better nature, he will either lie (no point as dd will tell me) or just do it anyway.

Is this a condition that the court would impose? That he has to be with someone a certain amount of time before he can introduce DD to them? I really don't want it to get to this stage but I do NOT want our DD brought up like this.

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There’s nothing you can do. As she grows up she will realise what a useless partner her dad is, and probably see it as “what to avoid in a man” . But also as she gets a little older it will be less confusing for her and more the norm. It’s not going to damage her. She just needs to know they are daddy’s friends and maybe try not to get too attached to them.

Thanks for the reply. I can't believe this is the situation now for the rest of her childhood.

Agree with PP, I think as she gets a bit older she will see this as the norm and it shouldn't be too confusing for her. I had a similar situation growing up with my mum having a bit of a revolving door situation and I loved all these new people around all the time.

It sounds a little like a friend of mine (w are both in our 50s), who grew up with her dad's succession of girlfriends and wives. She actually seems ok about that and has a very accepting attitude. She was far more damaged by a boyfriend of her mother's, who I think raped her, though she doesn't see it that way and it's not for me to press my view on her. She was extremely careful about her own partners, had very few boyfriends and eventually married a younger man and has been v happy.

The brutal truth is, if she has one reliable parent, she will probably be fine - that would be you. Even more brutally, statistically, random women are less likely to hurt her than random men. Keep talking to her.

Don’t think you can do anything, my friend is a series of ‘friends’ who she introduced to her son until one stuck around.

I really don't think there is anything you can do. She will start to understand it soon enough and simply assume the women are temporary. Really it's the result of having a baby with a man who is a selfish bastard.

There’s bugger all you can do. My ex used to go through women like water and would always introduce the dc after a few weeks. My eldest is now 11 and takes the piss out of her df about the amount of girlfriends. Doesn’t seem to bother her any longer. She sees him eow. I just make sure that I’m responsible and she sees how it ‘should’ be done from me and I’m the one that gives her that stability

It sucks but it's outside of your control. I used it as an opportunity to talk with them about relationships and help them examine what is and isn't healthy and how they feel about it.