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Drunk teenager

29 replies

Sosounhappy · 23/01/2019 19:36

If you agreed your teenager''s friend could stay at your house overnight and they turned up very drunk would you ring their parents to collect them ?

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Racecardriver · 23/01/2019 19:37

Yes. No one wants to deal with a drunk teenager.

icelollycraving · 23/01/2019 19:39

What age teen? 13 yes, 18 no.

DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 23/01/2019 19:40

How old?

PavlovianLunge · 23/01/2019 19:43

Drunk, maybe. Very drunk, absolutely.

Surfingtheweb · 23/01/2019 19:50

Depends, if they were being a pain then yes. If they were no bother I'd just send them to bed. But there is always the risk they will throw up somewhere (",)

O4FS · 23/01/2019 19:52

Depends on age, if it’s after a party or in the afternoon - what are the circumstances?

KnightError · 23/01/2019 19:52

Oh dear. Yes, I would (I have teenagers).

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Sosounhappy · 23/01/2019 20:05

16 turned up drunk at 11pm. Parents were very upset I rang them !!

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Passmethecrisps · 23/01/2019 20:07

Had they had a couple themselves?

In what way very drunk? But also it’s a Wednesday night. And he is 16. Where has he been until 11pm?

erja · 23/01/2019 20:09

Depends on circumstances. Not enough info!

Starlight90 · 23/01/2019 20:09

Absolutely. She or he ain’t your responsibility.

Im always scared of anyone drinking to oblivion and throwing up. A sister of my friend died after drinking so much and choked on her own vomit.

MorningCuppa · 23/01/2019 20:09

Where has they been, how drunk are we talking, has they arranged to stay with you beforehand?

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Sosounhappy · 23/01/2019 20:09

Happened at the weekend

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Drum2018 · 23/01/2019 20:11

Id ring parents too. Happened a friend who drove the drunk teen home and the mother has blanked her since. Kids had been to a disco and friend collected them and the teen was to stay at hers. You'd swear friend had poured the alcohol down his throat. If my teen was drunk I'd want the parents to let me know too and I'd definitely collect.

erja · 23/01/2019 20:11

How drunk? Was it a party? Had both teenagers been drinking? Had you agreed for him to stay before you knew alcohol would be involved or did you know when you agreed?

Passmethecrisps · 23/01/2019 20:12

Hmm. Was you child drunk as well? Could we maybe get a bit more story?

So for example were both kids out at a party and returned a bit drunk?

Did other teen arrive at your house at 11pm drunk with no warning?

Was other teen hideously drunk?

If both kids went to a party that I was aware of and one came back drunk but not so they were vomiting I would possibly text the parents but keep child there.

Puking and needing care I would call them

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Sosounhappy · 23/01/2019 20:21

Both kids went to a party. I had agreed friend could sleep over before. My child wasn't drunk. Friend was a mess couldn't walk in a straight line and was vomiting. Her parents thought I should look after her.

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Passmethecrisps · 23/01/2019 20:22

No way! Who wouldn’t want to collect their child to see that they would be ok?

It says a lot about their expectations of teenage behaviour

LovingLola · 23/01/2019 20:23

Am very glad you thought differently

O4FS · 23/01/2019 20:30

Did they know their child would be drinking? Because if so, they need to be on stand by for a pick up call.

I would probably call the parents/take them home.

KnightError · 23/01/2019 20:39

Oh poor you, OP. You did the right thing, even if the parents were hopeless. I'd want to know if any of mine were in that state would like to say it would never happen, but who knows and would come and retrieve them at that point...

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Sosounhappy · 23/01/2019 20:53

Thank you must admit I was worried I did the wrong thing

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KnightError · 23/01/2019 20:55

You were completely right, @Sosounhappy

bananaramaspyjamas · 23/01/2019 21:29

I think you did the right thing for sure OP

glamorousgrandmother · 23/01/2019 21:33

You did the right thing. If it had been a younger child who had become ill you would call the parents. It's not your job to look after a vomiting teenager.