Will my husband ever manage to go to the supermarket without ringing me at least once?

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“They haven’t got any of the bread we usually get.”

“What else shall I get to go with sausages?”

“They’ve got on special offer - shall I buy some?”

FFS.

I'd rather have that than a load of weird expensive shit like artisanal date bread and faggots, I suppose.

But I bet he shows more initiative at work.

Heh. I’m married to him too. If he takes a day off to look after the kids in school holidays does he phone you 78 times at work to check what to do/ what to feed them etc?

Hahah, this could be written by my DH. I always call him about food.

This is my DP as well then we end up bickering on the phone as he's obviously not an adult at 31 🙄🙄

That's made me laugh.

DP doesn't ring me from the shops often but I was thinking today how I seem to be the default person for absolutely everything on the fucking planet.

Where is my top?

Did (stepdad) move my lego?
Why am I missing money from my bank account?

Everything begins with mum or one of the ? words.

Even DD1 will ring me and ask me if my DP is about and if so what sort of oil should she buy for the car? It drives me completely bonkers!

Oh my goodness this is my dh. It’s now a running joke between me and the children as to how many times he’ll need to ring me when he’s out.

Lolz men eh?!

Ha, just been watching the Micky Flanagan clip "you must go to the shop for me" (Google it) as it's so true for me and dh!

Dh can remember 5 things without a list. If I phone when he's there and ask for something else, one of the original 5 will likely be forgotten if it's not already in the basket.
To be fair to him though, I also need a list for stuff I Must Not Forget and am much worse at chucking random crap into the basket 😁

The DP and do lists on our phones.

Nevertheless, we can be in the shop, together, and leave without what we want in for.

We impress ourselves sometimes.

This is my dh too! He shows zero original thought when away from work. I've not seen him at work but assume he's capable of thinking for himself there... I don't know what happens to him. Well I do really, he knows I'll do the thinking and planning and so doesn't bother. He works under the guise of 'I don't want to get it wrong'.

OMG. I get this too, every single bloody time. It's like they're incapable of independent thought outside of work.

Although to be fair, some people are fairly hopeless at work, too. I think men tend to get paid more for it though. Maybe at work asking a woman what to do is seen as delegating or some other key competency skill.

Mine usually phone me as he drives out of the street, then phones while he's in the shop. Be an adult FFS, use some initiative and buy what is needed.

DH does our food shopping, cooking, meal planning including ad hoc alternatives and knows the prices of everything food related.
That's his job since 1986.

Everything else is mine and he calls me at work. Today MIL's heating was cold "What's the emergency service number of the housing cooperative?" he could have googled, or looked in the folder titled MIL ....

At least he tries... my dp has never entered a shop on his own for a food shop, as apparently he would get it all wrong (what a cop out!)

I know someone like this. It's because his ex partner had a "my way or the high way mentality and he got "told off" any time that he used his initiative in situations such as those above. It was a learned response and he still does it out of habit even though his wife is lovely and laid back.

Not suggesting that this is the case here, but it could be a milder case of fear of getting it wrong rather than a lack of his own ideas.

I always get called.
And yes everyone assumes I have an internal GPS which is locked on all their belongings at all times.
To be fair everything’s usually filed under “floor” so not too tricky

I like when mine phones me and he usually says he’s got me a little gift, which is think is cute of him.

I am definitely not a ‘my way or the highway’ control freak. I’d be more than happy for him to use his initiative and just male a decision.

Prevarication is a big trait of his though - in all areas of his life. I’ve seen him overthink work problems to the point of paralysis. It’s utterly maddening. I don’t know how he can live with being like that.

He thinks I’m really reckless because I make decisions quickly without needing to methodically weigh up all the options, including hypothetical ones that will never happen, and then wait a couple of months to make sure the course of action I’ve decided on is the right one.

JUST BUY SOME OTHER BREAD!!

I seem to be the default person for absolutely everything on the fucking planet.

Me too! Or maybe we're each it in our own regional areas

I had this. and i had do i need a beef joint or 2. when I asked him to get milk

I wonder how some people would cope if supermarkets had no phone signal?

I wish my dh would phone me from the shops. He'll go to the shops with a list for example eggs, bread and avacado and come back with eggs, sourdough bread, a normal loaf and as they had no avacado he would buy mushrooms and tomatoes instead 🤔.

Can't stand this, mine face times me so I have to look at the shopping