Stag dos

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Hi everyone,

My partner is going on two stag dos after our boy is born. One stag do is a month and a half after he's due and the second is two and a half months after he's due.

I'm worried about how I'll cope alone without him, doing both the night and day shift, both our families will be around but it won't be the same as having him in house 24/7.

I guess it would depend on how far he’s going and for how long, plus his relationship to the grooms.

Is it a weekend away or just out for one night?

Did you both discuss them beforehand and agree?

Rational head- he should go your both adults it’s a short period of time. You could rope in your mum or someone to help you.

Heart- I wouldn’t like it. I would feel quite overwhelmed and unsupported. I wouldn’t want him to go.

What if you have a c-section or there are other complications, will he be able to cancel?

He's going to Benidorm for the first stag do four around 4 days and Prague for the second stag do for around the same amount of time. He's been friends with both grooms for about 5 years

He was already going on the stag dos before I got pregnant so that's why I feel like I can't complain.

My thoughts exactly, fingers crossed I have no complications but you never know what could happen.

If they're paid up commitments that are costly to get out of and you have plenty of support then I wouldn't worry so much. Just bank the time for yourself at a later date.

I would say I want happy!

That’s a lot of ££ to be throwing around after a baby, although I am perhaps wrongly assuming the money could be put to better use

They are for a piss take long time. 1/2 at a push nights away. 4?! Fuck off!

But I am quite straight about these things upfront.

Dh has been on stags and men’s ski weekends but when the children have been a bit older and it’s never interfered with family money/time.

When they were newborns and off for a 4 day piss up? I would be really upset that DH hadn’t pulled out himself.

He hasn't actually booked anything yet, he's just told them he'll go. I'm secretly hoping that once he's born he won't want to go because he'll miss him too much

From the other point of view I had to go on my best friends hens when my 1st baby was only 7 weeks old. I left my husband home alone with the baby for 2 days, he'd never even held a baby before she was born. I had been friends for 20 years with the hen and supported each other through everything and I just didn't think I could miss it even though I really didn't want to go. My husband was fine, baby was fine and I enjoyed my first night out in a year.

I think if it's already planned and money has been put down I wouldn't go changing it now. See how you feel in the few weeks after baby is born and if you genuinely aren't well then he will have to stay to mind you and the baby.

I wouldn't mind him going if it was two days but I feel like four days is a bit of a long time to go away when you've got a newborn baby at home

Also, (unless money isn't an issue for you so it relevant), they'll be really expensive!

I wouldn't have wanted my husband to go away for 4 days unless it was for work that early.

We've managed to sort it out, he was going to fly out to Benidorm a day before the groom with a few other lads and come back a day later so he wasn't so hungover but now he's flying out and coming back the same day as the groom which I think takes it down to two nights away