Any other 'cynical' mums out there?

[Annie3331]

Hi all. Im 28 and 4 months pregnant.

Just wondering if I'm the only one that doesnt want to make a huge deal about having a baby. A lot of my friends and my sister in law had every party under the sun, 'i got pregnant' parties and gender reveals and baby showers etc. I feel like im being judged for not wanting any of it!!

Dont get me wrong my husband and i are thrilled but I find the whole thing a little self indulgent. Happy to attend for my friends as its their choice but they all keep asking me when I'm doing all that and then i get side eye when i say im not!!

I've never had, nor have any of my friends had, any parties related to being pregnant or having a baby. Is it really a thing?! I forgot to tell most people i was pregnant with dc2! Congrats on your pregnancy.

I was the same as you. I was really touched by the people who bought us presents (so many people definitely went out of their way) but the whole gender reveal... FB pregnancy shoot... etc... no. I have an acquaintance on FB who posts everything. I feel intimately acquainted with her cervix

TTC look so much longer than we'd like so I don't know if that influenced it.

Nope! I’m one too! It’s not cynical. I find baby showers and all the rest of it very brash and grabby.

I'd switch to "oh I haven't thought about that yet"

Then move on to "it's difficult to find a date that suits.

And finally, "I'm too tired & cranky to cope with one now - it's too late"

To: "look how beautiful my baby is!"

Congratulations

We never had them when mine came along. It's a new thing - American, I think

I'm not a sentimental person, either. A lot of people openly said I wasn't maternal enough for them to imagine me ever having kids.

Warning: pregnancy hormones change your brain. I am a much more sentimental & emotional person after having kids than I ever was before. I think I'm still on the hard-assed end of spectrum, but not like before. I cry at stupid adverts and other things nowadays (but less than I did a few yrs ago, am getting more thick skinned again, finally).

One day at a time, and all that.

Thanks ladies!! I thought i was floating alone in my own grumpy world! We did a fb announcement to get the word out to distant friends etc but thats it, no scan pics or belly pics. If people ask me about it i will more than happily give updates but to me its a really personal thing. I appreciate everone in interested but along with interest comes everyone else's opinions! I think my mother in law feels like I couldnt care less 😂😂 her other daughter in law had just had a baby boy, my nephew and i love him to bits but there is non of her left now. I cant talk to her without her directing conversation to her baby or my soon to be baby!!