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Mrs Meldrum, her new book and her flock of sheep.

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Instascum89 · 22/01/2019 12:55

I have NC as use MN’s a lot. I’d like to say it’s because I’m likely to get flamed for my opinion or judgment but it’s mostly because I’m not proud to admit I have a weird fascination with Instamums, their egos and blatant narcissistic traits.

Don’t get me wrong, some I enjoy because they’r quite funny, pretty to look at or have a great interior taste (something I’m really interested in myself) or maybe just quite down to earth with a similar parenting style however I still don’t understand how anyone could be comfortable enough to talk to a bunch of strangers on their phone, showing how they put on their day to day makeup, where their clothes are from and how beautiful their kids are, it all seems a bit self absorbed...though I do keep watching so prehaps I’m just as bad.

One I cannot bear to follow or get my head around though (so I slyly watch from the side) is Mrs Meldrum, how is she remotely relatable or likeable even in any shape or form.

I don’t find her awful or offensive on her stories but similarly she doesn’t seem to have much about her or have anything of substance or interest to say. I don’t think she comes across as very warm or maternal and her taste in clothes, interior and style is all very bland so what exactly does she bring to the gram table?

In the last few weeks she had released a gender stereotype kids craft book titled “Mummy and Me” and then deleted posts from lots of people expressing their disappointment or confusion as to why in this day and age she has released a book which excludes so many different family makeups.

Complained about being skint and made such a big deal of doing no spend January and then hired (possibly an undeclared #AD) a personal trainer costing in the region of £££’s month and then declared she has given up with no spend January...no shit!!!

Like I said I’m prepared to get shot down in flames, I know I don’t need to watch and I can scroll past and I mostly I do but I also find it interesting as to why so many people think she is so relatable and worthy of opinion that they would support her delete and block followers such as an upset Gay man or grieving Dad both of which wanted to explain why they felt her book title was harmful, hurtful and thoughtless.

From what I can see Rebecca Meldrum is a very entitled and self absorbed individual, who has not only been handed everything to her on a golden plate but has been so sheltered from real life that she has no real people skills or relistic grasp of the world around her, what kinda people and why look at her and think that’s someone I admire and want to be like?

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Instascum89 · 22/01/2019 17:12

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EddieVeddersfoxymop · 22/01/2019 17:23

Donning my tin hat too, I find her irritating and can't quite get my head around her. I don't see the attraction, not that I'm a fan of any insta mums, but she grates on my last nerve Angry

shortgreengiraffe · 22/01/2019 18:01

Head over to the Tatle Life website. There you will find hundreds of people who feel exactly the same way as you do.

You'll need at least a day to get through the 17 threads.

Mrs Meldrum is second only to The Ingham Family in the most disliked family floggers category.

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Inghamhater · 22/01/2019 18:17

Ugh. I can't stand her. Or the Inghams (can you guess from my name!)

Instascum89 · 22/01/2019 18:59

I actually find Sarah and Rebecca quite similar, both shallow, self absorbed with a addiction for buying constant shite with no regards to our poor world or ever growing landfills all the while exploiting their kids for freebies and a lazy existence...

It’s ironic really as they have came from such different back grounds...

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retainertrainer · 22/01/2019 19:13

I really like Louise Pentland but even she can be very self absorbed. Talking a lot about work/life balance, how hard she is on herself, needing a break but never giving herself one etc. I do think they quickly lose perspective on what life in the real world is like. What it’s like to hold down a job and be be parent. Now I know they class what they do as work but it’s just not comparable to the real world. Needing a break from Instagram/writing blogs/ filming yourself cleaning the kitchen just isn’t the same as needing a break from (for example) being a mental health nurse in the nhs. I just think they should keep these problems to themselves. Just keep it light,fun entertainment and save the ‘woa is me stuff’ for their friends and family.

shortgreengiraffe · 22/01/2019 19:29

This BBC news report on vloggers and mental health is well worth a watch:

News [[https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/technology-46816928/youtube-influencers-inside-the-weird-world-of-social-media-burnout]]

I have only seen a few Mrs Meldrum videos so not at full rage levels... Yet!

The Ingham Family are a mental health crisis waiting to happen.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 22/01/2019 19:31

Hey @shortgreengiraffe

Can you post the link again as the one above is corrupt?

shortgreengiraffe · 22/01/2019 19:34

Sorry about that - my mistake.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/technology-46816928/youtube-influencers-inside-the-weird-world-of-social-media-burnout

Is this any better?

I keep thinking of the phrase used in the video above 'If you don't feed the algorithm the algorithm bites back...'

Impatienceismyvirtue · 22/01/2019 19:37

I can’t stand Mrs Meldrum, for every reason you’ve listed. She was pregnant with her 3rd when I was with my 1st so I started following thinking it would be nice to follow along. I was horrified when she did the gender reveal with her husband which was clearly massively disappointed it was another girl (yes I know gender disappointment is a real thing but that video is out there for her to find when she’s older!) and when she was born I had to finally unfollow because she just did updates of her baby-talking to the newborn for about 6 weeks straight 🙃🔫

Impatienceismyvirtue · 22/01/2019 19:38

Which = who

sprinkleofsunshine · 22/01/2019 19:38

I watch her on and off but never purposefully look for her videos or watch everything she puts out. She doesn't have much interesting to say and I agree with you she doesn't come across a particularly warm and friendly person.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 22/01/2019 21:50

I literally don’t understand where MM et al get the time to plough into output at this level.

And it’s not just sitting in front of a camera/filming your kid doing something cutesy, it’s take after take after take after edit after edit then comments back then liaise with the partnerships/ads etc AND THEN I dunno, spend actual time with your family?

My XH was a very early would be “influencer” and the time it all took ate away at our relationship, and that’s when we were in our 20s, no kids and full of energy.

I’d hate it, and as Bobby says in that video linked above the influencers know it’s damaging but “can’t” stop.

TulipsInbloom1 · 22/01/2019 21:52

She does my head in too. There's a construction site near me which has a big "Meldrum Construction" sign on the side of. Can't imagine it's connected in any way but I always throw it the evils because it reminds me so much of the fakest family online.

TulipsInbloom1 · 22/01/2019 21:53

The only "mum" (eurgh hate that) worth following online is Rosie Ramsay. She is fucking hilarious and does a great piss take of the whole Instamum craze.

sheepsheep · 22/01/2019 22:10

I'm not sure I follow your reasoning on the hate for the book title.

If "Mummy and Me" excludes your family makeup then surely the answer is don't buy it? Are we not allowed to use the word mummy now in case it offends all the Dads? Am I supposed to be offended at those t shirts that say "Daddy's little monster" JUST because they exclude me as I am not a Dad? (Not for the fact that they are twee bullshit but I digress.)

I don't get it. I watch and follow a lot of influencers and most of them get on my nerves from time to time so I stop watching for a while or even for good, and i am not even familiar with Mrs Meldrum but all this angst over inclusiveness is getting tiring now. Some people are Mums/Dads/whatever category you want, and some stuff will be targeted at one of those groups because it sells, not because it is actively snubbing the others. Ridiculous.

Instascum89 · 22/01/2019 23:15

@sheepsheep

For every shop selling a trite pink t shirt with Mummy and Me printed on the front you can guarantee their will me be a blue Daddy & Me on the hanger next to it and while acceptance on family gender stereotyping and diversity still has a way to go as far as Next or Sainsbury’s goes at least it’s a start.

I think mostly I was frustrated at MM’s refusal to even let it open up a line of conversation with regards to gender equality in parenting (think it truly shows how little she had to do with writing or planning the book) you can herd round agree and flatter me but one hint of substance and question of my morals and you are blocked and deemed a hater or troll.

Her whole brand, page, portrayed life...whatever you want to call it is a rotten mud cake coated in shiny icing, ok to look at from afar but scratch the surface and there is nothing worth staying around for.

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EnidButton · 22/01/2019 23:35

I don't follow any of them as it's not relevant to me but obviously they pop up now and then on the main feed. Had a look at Mrs M and I can't see why she has so many followers tbh. Don't know enough to have any opinion on her either way but just looking at the content she's put up it's not that great really. There are some I see and I can understand why people like them or want to have the lifestyle they seem to have but not seeing the Mrs M attraction tbh.

Tell you what gets on my nips. Posting swimwear pics with a caption saying how they eat so much food because life's too short and how the world will just have to accept their love handles and "real woman" curves #bodypositivity. And they've clearly got a six pack, a bum you could rest a pint on and rock hard thighs. Come off it.

sheepsheep · 23/01/2019 08:04

But why is every person in the public eye required to "open up a line of conversation with regards to gender equality in parenting?"

Sometimes it is OK to have your own little corner of the world where you don't hit all the key talking points of the day.

It is fine to not like her. It is fine to think she is inane or fake or lacking substance. But when you dress that up as a concern for a lack of addressing issues in parenting equality you are taking it too far.

Jemimafuckingpuddleduck · 23/01/2019 09:46

With all the respect @sheepsheep that’s a very narrow minded and deleterious stance to take on family diversity and equality. If we were all to go about with the brush it under the carpet mentality there would be a lot of families and children still hiding in the shadows...

We have came a long way from only accepting a mummy a daddy and 2 kids as a family unit but clearly with people like MM in the world we clearly still have a way to go.

Of course people should keep ask the questions to anyone they feel is pigeonholing and being intolerant especially when that person has near enough 84k followers.

sheepsheep · 23/01/2019 12:08

No I'm sorry but it is not pigeonholing to make a book called Mummy and Me.

Being inclusive and breaking down barriers is not about deleting what already exists. And not every person who is not on a personal crusade to virtue signal on the topic is intolerant.

Celebrating motherhood does not detract from all the other types of parenthood that exist.

Winterfellwonderland · 23/01/2019 12:42

Kerry whelpdale is the worst. She just lacks substance and style. Emily Norris is so sweet it's sickening. I get fed up with the content of these mum vloggers, it's all the same churned out shit..... Poundland haul - boring, weekend at center parcs - yawn, mum hacks - all done to death yawn yawn yawn

Jemimafuckingpuddleduck · 24/01/2019 09:20

@sheepsheep think we are just going to have to agreed to disagree on this one. Smile

moop136 · 26/03/2019 13:24

Thank god there are folk out there who feel the same as me. I worry about people who suffer with anxiety, who are willing to subject themselves to a career where you are literally asking the world for their opinions or criticism. I whole heartedly believe that blogging and vlogging are not real jobs. Yes I know, someone will disagree I am sure!
I cannot relate to Mrs M on any level. House husband, gym almost every day, constant socialising? I admit, I look like I have the green eyed monster, and maybe a bit I do. But I work hard, husband works full time, and I never go out, cannot afford a personal trainer, so I do get annoyed with this lifestyle she tries to sell. Sorry, just needed to vent!! I do however find Charlotte Louise Taylor ok to watch if I come across her on you tube.

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