Tell me to pull myself together!

[pandoraphile]

It's my birthday and I'm sitting here crying for goodness sake! Ridiculous.
The reasons are:

My father prioritised doing some random photography thing rather than come down for my birthday meal. No card or gift from him, just a message sent at midnight last night.

My best friend and I had a huge falling out on the morning of the meal over something really stupid. She was so nasty though, it really upset me and spoiled the meal. She didn't even come and we have NEVER argued before.

My eldest dd (17) hasn't even got me a card.

My dp has made precisely 0% effort. He stayed out till 4am drinking on Sat night and has done nothing but lie about half asleep since then. I've had to clean the whole house myself, sort washing, etc as well as trying to work. He didn't even say happy birthday this morning. He did get me a card and gift but sat and played on his phone as I opened them.

No flowers or cake or balloons, nothing. I make SUCH an effort to ensure that the rest of the family feel special and spoiled on their birthday and I haven't had so much as a cup of tea made for me!

I know, I know - I'm being stupid but I'm so hurt by it all. Maybe I have PMT?!

First of all... Happy birthday

It's shit when you have a shit birthday. I spent mine travelling 150 miles to the in-laws and the first person to wish me happy birthday was at 4pm that afternoon.

Can you go and have a good old soak, and cry, in the bath?

I would seriously have a word with your partner about it. I know in my case we had "celebrated" the night before and the priority was our travel but in this instance, it seems very poor.

Happy birthday OP

I'm sorry people aren't treating you as you deserve

You're not stupid - people aren't being nice to you.

Maybe next time one of the family has a birthday, just ignore it? Birthdays obviously don't come high on their list of priorities.

Thanks guys. Dp has now realised how upset I am and has pulled himself together a bit.

Happy birthday 🎂

Thank you. I'm glad it's nearly over tbh!

You’re not being stupid at all. It’s not much to ask someone o engage with you when you’re opening a present.

Next year, plan and book the stuff you want to do. I used to wait and see but I realised that was always setting everyone up for a fall so now I take matters into my own hands.