At breaking point with work bullying

[RHOF]

I've landed my dream job, but the bullying is too much. I can't take it anymore. I think I'm going to have to move to another department as I can't face the fight anymore. I have raised a grievance, but at my wits end with it all.

Just reread and realised there isn't even a question in my post. Not sure what I'm looking for others to say... advice maybe?

More info required...how are you being bullied? What's the job/industry?

I also think you need to provide further info, how are you being bullied and what's been done about it?

You have a few options...

Do nothing
Take out a grievance
Move depts
Resign without anywhere to go
Get a new job, then resign
Get signed off sick and hopefully do one of the above while off.

What do you feel up to doing? Have you spoken to anyone at work about it?

My advice is always to leave. I did eventually but stayed a while thinking it might get better and it wrecked my head for a long time.

In a horrible situation at work. Took sick leave during lockdown because of a traumatic bereavement. Back at work, and have experienced indirect sexism, racism and had discriminatory comments off my boss regarding my sick leave. And when I raised how I was being indirectly bullied by two men on
The team (withholding work, not showing up
To meetings, making a racial joke, trying to
Micro manage me, talking down to me and many more examples) he minimised everything and told me
I was too sensitive and overreacting because of what had happened to me. He’s also flip flopped lots of times about reshuffling work so I wouldn’t have fo come
Into direct contact with them. But then backtracks and denies if. Then agreed to it again. Then carried on making me attend meetings with them. He’s done this so many times I realised he was gas lighting me too. He’s also sometimes very complementary about my work, or sometimes does it in a negging way. So all flavours of subtle bullying which I know is difficult to even explain let alone prove to people. It’s affecting my mental health very badly. Binge eating and stopped leaving the house unless necessary. Doesn’t seem
Fair I have to leave my job but I know this is what will ultimately happen.Asked for a transfer, but they have implied it’s a tough recruitment process for the other roles - get the impression I’ll
Be blocked. Not sure what fo do. Can I hand in constructive dismissal and trigger a grievance process at the same time? Can’t take much more, it’s making my depression so much worse, almost feeling suicidal over it and trapped. Any tips or advice would be really welcome. M feel very anxious and scared. Scared of doing a formal grievance too,

@Jibbajabba1

In a horrible situation at work. Took sick leave during lockdown because of a traumatic bereavement. Back at work, and have experienced indirect sexism, racism and had discriminatory comments off my boss regarding my sick leave. And when I raised how I was being indirectly bullied by two men on The team (withholding work, not showing up To meetings, making a racial joke, trying to Micro manage me, talking down to me and many more examples) he minimised everything and told me I was too sensitive and overreacting because of what had happened to me. He’s also flip flopped lots of times about reshuffling work so I wouldn’t have fo come Into direct contact with them. But then backtracks and denies if. Then agreed to it again. Then carried on making me attend meetings with them. He’s done this so many times I realised he was gas lighting me too. He’s also sometimes very complementary about my work, or sometimes does it in a negging way. So all flavours of subtle bullying which I know is difficult to even explain let alone prove to people. It’s affecting my mental health very badly. Binge eating and stopped leaving the house unless necessary. Doesn’t seem Fair I have to leave my job but I know this is what will ultimately happen.Asked for a transfer, but they have implied it’s a tough recruitment process for the other roles - get the impression I’ll Be blocked. Not sure what fo do. Can I hand in constructive dismissal and trigger a grievance process at the same time? Can’t take much more, it’s making my depression so much worse, almost feeling suicidal over it and trapped. Any tips or advice would be really welcome. M feel very anxious and scared. Scared of doing a formal grievance too,

You might want to start your own thread x

I can’t figure out how to 🙈

@Jibbajabba1

I can’t figure out how to 🙈

Go to talk>chat there is a plus button (+) at the bottom it says add thread push that xx

Thank you x think I’ve done it now