Is there a good way to tell a friend she can't get away with lying about her age

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She's close to 40 and she looks good, but she's said she lies on online dating and says she's 32.

She has quite a good opinion if herself (thinks most guys she meets fancy her) but to me she looks her age.

Should I say something or just let her carry on? She's not had a second date in many years

A fifth of your age is quite a bit to knock off..

do her online pics look like her? You could suggest she may attract better men for her if she told the truth, I don’t think that sounds offensive

I would go for the angle that a lie isn't a good way to begin a relationship.

Yeah even if you look good for your age that’s loads to knock off. Is she only looking for hook-ups? Surely if a guy started with her with a big lie when it came out she’d dump him. Isn’t she worried that’s happen to her?

I haven't seen the profile and she wants a boyfriend.

The honestly is a good angle, to be honest that more of a reason than she can't get away with the lie.

I don't know how she thinks so many fancy her with all the knckbacks she's had.

I really wouldn't say anything unless asked. You won't be thanked for it.

Why does she think she doesn't get second dates? Ask her but before she can answer ponder 'do you think it's because once they see you in person they realise you're not 32'.
Then grab the wine bottle and run for the hills.

Don't they all do that now days online dating? I know people who think everyone fancies them are annoying but you sound a tad harsh.

I wouldn't say anything unless you're asked, and if you are I'd go with the fact lying isn't a good predicate for a long term relationship angle.

Ultimately, it's her prerogative and if she's not getting past the second date I'm sure she'll re-evaluate her approach soon.

What harm is she causing? If she hasn't asked your opinion and it doesn't come up naturally in conversation why take the opportunity to deflate her? Perhaps look for other ways to help build her up instead.

I'm reminded of my mum. She had a friend who mum says goes on and on about being a size 8. It drives my mum crazy, but i can't see that it matters.

I wouldn't say a word. She probably wouldn't believe you by the sounds of things.