Is there a ranty board?

[sphinxa]

Is there a topic board just for ranting purposes? Just so people can express something on here which may just stop them expressing it in real life and ruining relationships?!!

My rant today: we've been living in a part of the UK for 2 years that is 300 miles away from DH's family.
We have a 3 year old and an almost 2 year old.
BIL & his wife have been to see us once. This was about 18 months ago just after DD was born. They work 3 days a week and have no children. They constantly express how much they love our children and would love to see them more but never visit.
We've visited them 4 times.

Today BIL has told DH that they booked a holiday in the next county to us. They will have to literally drive passes our house to get to this county. Would we like to pop down to see them while they're there!!!!!!

I'm so pissed off!

I need to rant before I say something out loud to DH.

His circus and his monkeys. They can holiday where they like.

But they haven't made a single bit of effort to see us or the kids and now they want us to take time to go out see them on their holiday. I want to invest as much effort with them as they do with us... ZERO!

AIBU is good for rants...or 30 days only.

I didn't want an AIBU because I'm not being unreasonable

I just want a bunch of strangers to say "yeah, you're right, what a pair of bellends".

They are a pair of bellends OP, I get similar with my ILs - always saying to DH they'd love to see us more (and we all live in the same county about 20 minutes drive between us!) yet I always find out they've been on days out with the kids and not invited us (they put the pictures on the group WhatsApp) so I refuse to any effort with them now. If they were that desperate to see my child they wouldn't actively exclude him from activities. People are knob heads!

Bellends!

I'd mind less if we didn't get so much "aawwww it's such a shame we don't see them" "we love them so much".

20 minutes drive away is shitter. No excuse!

We need a rant board where everyone just has to be in agreement and empathise!

I know! I get 'aww DS would have loved this place' and I always want to say 'Really? Why didn't you invite us then?' honestly, it's out of sight out of mind with my lot but always given the guilt trip of 'you never come to see us, we miss you'. It works both ways though, why should we always have to do the driving.

The last time they were in my house was 2 years ago after I'd invited all the kids for a play date in the Easter half term and I was ignored in my own home (nevermind the 'can we do this day instead/this time instead' the day before they were supposed to come round!) so have never invited them back since and my invite was never reciprocated so obviously they couldn't care less dispite their claims otherwise!

I would be all over a ranty topic, besides this IL issue I have sererval rants from today alone!

Oh rant away...

It's a 5 hour car journey to ILs which we've done 4 times since DD was 6 months. Having to bring travel cots and paraphernalia. They have no stair gate or high chairs so it's a massive faff!

They've been once!!! No kids and work 3 days a week... we both work full time!

Now we're tail arsing off to find them on their holiday!!! Bellends!!!

Other rants:

DH leaving saucepans to soak overnight to "help" but results in a bowl full of scuz water at breakfast!

Mil lived ten mins away and never visited. We were never invited there. We moved. She told her friends she helped us move. ..
4 years of nc bliss!!
Def recommend it!!

If we put in equal effort to this relationship we'd be NC!

Another:

Our next door neighbours tried to thieve our recycling bin! There's only 5 houses on our road. I don't know how they thought they'd get away with it!!

They're a pair of bellends sphinxa

Prize bellends.

Another: friend told me to keep positive despite the fact my son's newly a wheelchair user and in the last 5 years our family have experienced dad sectioned twice, suicide attempt, three close family member bereavements, ASD Diagnosis and more. FFS!

@colouringinpro what a bellend! Come and rant and have a wallow. Sounds like life has thrown a tonne of shit your way... you don't have to stay positive on my thread!

Erm, you know them but are you sure they aren't just hinting for an invitation? Letting you know they're in the area so you can say "but you must pop by!". Or did you try that? If so, rant away!

Thanks so much sphinxa I've run out of being positive!!! Unmumsetty xxx

And yuck to manky saucepan water!

DH said that they were passing by our (new) house and they should stay over or pop in. However they have plans and timings so it'd be easier if the 4 of us load up our car and travel an hour (in good traffic) to see them for half a day and travel back!