When to have a baby

[Ethereal23]

Clearly, I haven't posted in the right section but yes. I posted my first thread under academics, to let you all know I am not a mum or anything. I will be 27, by the time I want the career of my dreams. My thing is, to the women who had a job/career how many years into it until you had your first baby? Like, 10 years after your job? 15 years? I mean, if I haven't got a baby at age 40 then I will consider donor eggs or something. If my desire to not have kids haven't come until 50, then adoption it is.

But the main question is, when do you think its the right time to have a baby after building your career?

I know you’re just finding your way here but that’s a pretty insensitive question to pose on a section of the form where most folk here didn’t have the choice of when to have a baby many of whom have stepped back from their careers because of the needs their children have. Might I suggest you ask to have this moved to somewhere like chat where you’ll get a wider range of responses and your question won’t feel insensitive.

What’s the career of your dreams?

Hi OP,

We're going to move this thread over to Chat now, as we don't think this is quite the right topic - but do get in touch if you have any problems at all.

I was only in my job 3 years before having a baby . I have built my career since though and had 2 promotions so isn’t impossible with kids .

Two years in. Had two babies. Resumed my career afterwards. Don’t take fertility for granted.

I suggest having a baby when you feel it is right. When you are financially stable, mentally stable, you've got a great partner you have a good relationship with AND have lived with them for a while. Also when you feel like you've done enough for yourself. Like travel, go out, do things for yourself. Being in your 20s is the finest most exciting time I think. I finished uni, I traveled, I went out a lot, hung out with friends, did everything I could think of that I always dreamed of. If you have a baby when you don't feel ready you might find yourself a little resentful. I had my son when I didn't feel I was quite ready just yet. At 25 and the first few months were brutal.