Did you have your life figured out at 23?

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I'm currently studying psychology and criminology with open university. I'm not enjoying it at all finding it all very boring and the fact that I'm going to be studying for years and not able to work full time is frustrating.

I have two children and live with OH I know I have done everything backwards but it's just the way things have turned out.

I feel like I have no clue what I'm doing in life I'm doing a course I hate and want to quit.

I'm interested in doing a Microblading course and starting up on my own but I don't know whether to just go for it and quit uni.

Finding my 20s really difficult I'm still young but want to just find something I love.

Absolutely not, I was just thinking of this yesterday, on my 12th anniversary of working in Vietnam. I have special needs, and believe me, I have been through everything and anything in the past 12 years. We have done two very successful programs over the past year, including dentistry for special needs and I have been invited to the provincial celebrations next week. This is only the second time I have been invited in 12 years, so for me, it's a huge milestone.

But don't worry, life is not meant to be one straight path. You're meant to grow and keep changing. So don't worry, just go with what happens. Somethings will be completely out of your control, you just have to live with what is thrown at you.

If I didn't have the kids i don't think I would of bothered with university. I was never bothered about uni to be honest I just kind of thought I need to get a degree and a well paid job to look after them but obviously there is other routes you can take.

I think I may continuing studying part time just finish this year and start the HD brow course it's around 2k to do it though so need to be sure of it.

So frustrating seeing other people's lives on social media seems like everyone has their shit together but I guess people only show what they want us to see.

Nope I’m 23 now. I don’t even know what I’m doing! I’ve got a degree and a part time job and that’s about it!

I’m 32 and still don’t.

I had absolutely no clue what I was doing at 23. Renting, travelling, various jobs, MH issues that weren’t being addressed. It was only in my (late) thirties after having DC, meeting the right person and settling down, that I finally pursued the path that I could have put myself on much earlier had I had the confidence (own business). You have so much time ahead of you, 23 is so young in the grand scheme of things. If you try something and it doesn’t work out it doesn’t matter, life really is a journey. Eat if luck in whatever you decide!

Oh hell no. At 23 I had just dropped out of uni for a second time (first time due to MH issues) to raise my eldest at the request of my now-exP. I didn't realise it at the time but I was 2 years into an 11 year EA relationship. I've only really starting sorting my life out now in my late 30s. The kids are much older so I'm looking to go finish my degree with the OU. I have a lot of health issues so I've been doing work from home and my degree would actually help in a field I want to set up in, where I could still work from home.

So frustrating seeing other people's lives on social media seems like everyone has their shit together but I guess people only show what they want us to see.

Social media is awful for making people feel shit about their own lives. Your last bit is right though. People don't put all of their lives up, just the good bits. Going by social media my life has always looked pretty together, even when I was self harming a lot, feeling suicidal on a weekly if not daily basis etc so don't just to by what you can see.