How the F do you get over someone you have to see everyday at work?

[IOnlyWentInForANano]

A work colleague and I spent several weeks exchanging what started off as flirty texts but then quickly progressed to sexting and photos. We called time on it for various reasons, then a few weeks later were in contact again, same happened, called time again.

We never arranged to meet so it went no further than the messages and have bumped into each other on several occasions in / near work and have been friendly and professional, no one at work is any the wiser.

I cant stop thinking about him though, and it's really starting to annoy me! He often has to use a meeting room v close to where I sit, so often catch sight of him when I go to get a drink or as we cross over meeting rooms etc. This then leads me to plan my outfits each morning in case I bump into him, always make sure I look nice etc, and its exhausting!

I know I sound pathetic. How on earth do I go about getting myself out of this ridiculous crush? It's such a strange situation as we didn't physically do anything but, let's just say, we know each other, ahem, rather well

My best friend tells me just to cut him off and avoid him but it isn't actually possible to do that, we have to work together and I often dont know if and when I'm going to bump into him. It was ok over xmas as he was off so I thought that would get my head sorted, but it's just as bad now hes back.

Any advice appreciated!

Sounds weird to me but I'm a bit old fashioned. Why do you send each other pictures but not meet up for a date? Were you both single?

Nothing sinister @formerbabe we both just knew nothing could really come of it because of the impact on work. It was more a physical attraction thing than wanting to go on dates. Buuuut now I think I do like him more than I initially thought but know I can't go there.

So now I'm trying to figure out how to get him out of my head whilst still seeing him regularly.

We occasionally bump into each other at lunch if we're not with others we will stop and have a chat, just a catch up really. And I think I'm usually the one to stop walking first if that makes sense, so my plan next time was to just keep my headphones in, say hi and keep walking like I would with most other colleagues? Baby steps.

Oh God I'm pathetic!!

I know the feeling and wish I know the answer. I'm so pent up with hurt, anger, frustration, resentment and shame (horrible combination). But I'm in love with him and I'm not single and it wasn't meant to happen. We are no longer friends which kills me but has to be that way. Everytime I look at him my heart hurts and i'm back in that place again. He's leaving soon which kills me but I think it will only get better when he leaves.

We don't talk to each other at all anymore unless work related.

Realistically though if there's nothing major stopping you, maybe you should take it further

Sorry to hear what you're going through @run do you want to talk about it?

It would definitely be easier if one of us left but we both love our jobs and there would be no reason for either of us to leave otherwise. Xmas was definitely easier though as I could just totally put him out of my mind and not worrying about how I bloody looked everyday

I would take things further if I could. It's really quite complicated. We ended things on good terms but we cant really be friends. Not really. And I think that the bit that gets to me. Not knowing what hes thinking or what he thinks of me now.

So much for trying to put him out of my mind!

Could you not ask him out?

Is he single ?