How quick to announce birth of your first born?

[Melittlebee]

I'm due my first long awaited baby in the next couple of days.
Ideally I'd like to tell family & close friends straight away but then leave Facebook announcements and others to when 'I' want to.. after a few days or something like that. However I do want it to be me that announces it and my mum isn't very respectful of this.

When I got pregnant I said I wanted to wait to announce it but she didn't listen and told everyone she knew.

So did you rush to announce the birth or did you wait?

Once you've told family and close friends, does it matter who says what when?

When my middle DD had her first my eldest DDs best friend, said 'Congratulations' on FB, so it took away her ability to announce it.

Your not going to be able to do your own announcement, if you wait, by the sound of it.

Can you talk to her NOW and explain you don't want it announced on FB? Will she listen?

If not I'd tell immediate family, mom last then do a very quick FB along the lines of "we'll baby is here, we're well blah blah blah"

Dont send a photo to family thst you aren't happy to have on FB.

It's shit but at least knowing she's like this means you can beat her to it

@DisplayPurposesOnly yes it does matter to me. I've been trying for 20 years and numerous ivf cycles so this should be my announcement not my mums.

@SleepingStandingUp I've told her not to post anything on fb but I did the same when I told her I was pregnant and she didn't listen. I don't want her taking my news away from me... but then again will I care once my baby is here? Maybe I won't even mind?!

Don't tell your mum until you are ready to announce on Facebook! If she can't respect your wishes, these are the consequences.

I had to do the same with my mum- she announced my engagement to everyone (all my friends and family that she knew) before I could. She didn't see the issue when I spoke with her about it, so she was last to find out about my pregnancy (at 18 weeks).

but then again will I care once my baby is here? Maybe I won't even mind?!

This was true for me.

I can't say I ever really fretted about Facebook announcements to be fair, but certainly in my experience the days following the birth were a whirlwind of tiredness, soreness, beautiful newborn cuddles, excited visitors, midwife visits, constant breastfeeding and more tiredness. I really wouldn't have had the energy or headspace to think about Facebook and I suspect you won't either, OP. Try to enjoy it all and congratulations

Don’t tell your mom when you are going in to labour, and then tell her last.
It annoys me too. Something similar happened to us when Dd was born, a friend posted on my fb (becuase I hadn’t replied to the text, as if I wasn’t busy!) and it really upset me, looking back it doesn’t matter but I will do things differently when dc2 comes along.

OP i qqs the sqme as you. It was important to me to announce of fb, so we did it very soon after birth so i wasn't stressing about it do what is right fot you,and ignore the posters who are coming to say negative things about FB and why do you care etc

You know you don’t actually have to announce it in FB at all? It’s not compulsory.

Too be honest if you want first jump on who tells, then you post a picture of maybe your bump and say delivered today, at time, weight maybe, and push post as you tell DM....
If you don't do this she Will....

The FB announcement is handy to update friends/ extended family/ colleagues without having to send dozens of individual texts on an already hectic day.

You could have a draft status ready to go and update it with whatever photo or information you want to add when baby gets there.

Put your Facebook timeline on restricted so that you need to "approve" everything that goes on there. Then if she tries it you can delete it before anyone sees it. It wouldn't stop her from announcing on her own page but presumably none of your friends would see that if they aren't friends with her too

@ILoveMaxiBondi of course the OP knows this. But clearly she wants to. Don't be a dick.

20 years of trying! My goodness - massive congratulations!

My MIL announced on her Facebook with a photo of my daughter covered in birth gunk - I wasn't too impressed. Tell her in advance not to. But you might get someone posting a congratulations on your wall anyway. You could put that things on where you have to approve things posted onto your wall. You probably won't actually care once your baby arrives.

Send this to your mom!
And then don’t tell her until you want it announced to the world x

Don't be a dick.

says the one dishing out personal attacks.

Northernrunner I’ve seen one or two FB links share that image over the years and it’s always really sad that they can’t trust their families not to make their news about themselves.

Yes I know, what a shame!

I'm going to send that @NorthernRunner !

Id just do something really quick in FB so the edge of her announcing anything.

I very quick "he's here....." type thing

HUGE congratulations 🎊

Congratulations! We had an ivf baby too. My DH rang my mum and dad as I was induced and had had a very rough pregancy which was high risk so they were both fretting until they knew we were both ok. AFter that DH just sent a text to a big distribution list that he'd set up prior to the birth. Just don't tell you mum until you've made the announcement via whatever platform first.

Have an announcement saved and ready to go. Then announce as soon as you're ready, and don't tell your mum untill you're ready to announce to the world. It's a shame her stubborn stance means you can't tell her as soon as you'd want, but that's her problem not yours.

Congratulations

Deactivate fb until you are ready to post something. Just typing in your password reactivates it. I don't think i checked people's fb messages for about a month after the birth as i was so busy! So it didn't really matter in the end.

Congratulations

@Melittlebee Make sure you disable your wall and turn off tagging.

Close friends and family knew within hours.