Am I overreacting?

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I have worked in a male dominant area for almost 10 years, things have got better over the last couple of years and the blatant sexism has almost disappeared now...however it seems that there’s some men who struggle to let it go.

I was 23 when I started...young, carefree and no children. Fast forward and I now have a two year old. I like to think that I still take care of myself and make an effort for work.

A new girl came in today, probably the same age as I was when I joined. No one in my department knew who she was so some of the men were asking who she was and saying she was really pretty.

My manager then turned to me and said “aah I remember when people used to say that to me about you, but no-one says it anymore”

I just feel a bit gutted about it really! It’s like I used to be attractive, but now I’m not. I know it’s maybe shallow but I don’t exactly have high self esteem anyway.

Am I overreacting about letting it bother me!?

That's a shitty thing for him to say. It's a deliberate put down. How is your relationship with him.

I had a manager say that to me once, a very long time ago in a company I no longer work for, and only did for a few months, he said " you're the sort of woman who you think is really attractive when you meet you, but then after a while realise you're not". I didn't feel bad though, I just gave him this look. and thought he was a total dick. He was.

What a twat! Not overreacting to feel pissed off at all, what a shitty thing to say.

Can’t decide if it’s more insulting for commenting on you not being as attractive as you used to be or commenting on your attractiveness full stop, but either way, I don’t blame you for being annoyed by it.

Is your boss usually such a sexist prick?

YABU to call an adult woman a girl

You're as bad as they are..

I would have said "Not to worry. No-one ever said that about you".

Twat.

Would you EVER consider commenting how he's less attractive than the new bloke in accounts?

No because men don't have to put up with this vaccuous demeaning shite.

He's a dogsnob.

My bad, shouldn’t have called her a girl.

I think he tries to mask comments as banter...but ends up just sounding like a dick.

Well at least you sound like you’ve got the measure of him. He’s a tiny dick.

U should have replied to him... Ah yes...that was back in the day when you didnt need to iron your face along with your shirt every morning!... and walked away . Ignore him and his tiny mind (or insert another 4 letter word body part)

Unfortunately I just sat there and gawped in disbelief at him...why can I not think of a decent comeback until about 10 minutes after something happens!!

Pmsl.. dont worry.. im never quick enough either to reply to CFs. Its only after the event i think of what i should have said. I probably would have been stood next to you, mouth open, silently staring at CF along with you