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Things I never thought I’d be doing at my age ...

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LaurelAndHardyFan · 16/01/2019 21:09

I turn 48 next week. Had a spectacularly shit 2 years.
Tonight I find myself sleeping on the floor of my 20yo son. He rents a room in a house shared with another 48yo man & an older guy. Both rooms have separate music competing with other.
I have 20p in my bank account.
Hopefully things can only go up from here.

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TomThumb1 · 16/01/2019 21:30

I didn't want to read and not comment. At least you have your health? You're lucky enough to have a son and are able to find the strength to post on here? Life is so hard sometimes but everything passes. Take it one day at a time. (What an awful collection of cliches, I'm sorry❤️)

RandomMess · 16/01/2019 21:34

I certainly wouldn't have envisioned that for myself in the not so distant future...

It's scary isn't it how you can go from an ok life to being utterly skint Nd homeless!

I hope you are ok and can see a way forward ThanksThanksThanks

Lucylugs · 16/01/2019 21:43

I know what you mean. I realised a while ago though that once you add your age to a situation it changes your viewpoint, usually in a negative way. A friend commented to me in the same way. My take is if you were only 20 you wouldn't care and would probably say I've got a chance at a new start here.

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Singlenotsingle · 16/01/2019 21:45

OMG I don't know what to suggest but I hope 2019 is an improvement on the last 2 years. Flowers

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LaurelAndHardyFan · 16/01/2019 21:59

Thanks all.
I’m not sure what I’m going to do & have been looking at live in positions tonight. My Ex & I had our own business for 25+ years so I don’t have any qualifications as such.
I’ve worked for myself since I was 18 & the thought of going into an office (if I would even get offered a position) terrifies me.
I am hoping this ‘hiccup ‘ is the fresh start I need.

I was never a fan of techno music before & now I’m pretty sure I hate it 😂😂 just hoping it’s not an all night thing !

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Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 16/01/2019 22:02

The fact you are close to your ds is something to be proud of. Not all ds's of his age would share a room with their dm.

Fiddie · 16/01/2019 22:03

Where did you live before today?

RandomMess · 16/01/2019 22:04

Trade you techno for modern rap???

Live in posts sound a good idea!

Timeandtune · 16/01/2019 22:04

Definitely would encourage you to look at live in positions. Try The Lady magazine. Good luck!

chocatoo · 16/01/2019 22:06

Wishing you good luck for the future. Your son sounds a star...hopefully he might give you the bed.

Overseasmom100 · 16/01/2019 22:13

Bless you. I admire your honesty. Take every day as it comes. Set yourself small goals and keep posting here for support. Will be good to follow your journey. Rooting for good things to come yr way OP

jinglewithbellson · 16/01/2019 22:18

Op sorry to hear your current situation.

Not sure what area you are but where I am there's a lot of advertised live In for private house staff,outdoor staff and campsite staff.

Have you been into your local council to ask for some housing advice yet or has this just happened to you?
Citizens advice could maybe help aswel.

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Villanellesproudmum · 16/01/2019 22:20

Do you like chocolate? Cocoa Mountain in Scotland are looking for a manager, it comes with accommodation! I’d be applying if I wasn’t stuck where I am for the next couple of years.

Villanellesproudmum · 16/01/2019 22:21

Also places like Butlins are offering seasonal work with accommodation.

glitterfarts · 16/01/2019 22:22

Round my way they are desperate for live in carer/companion for older people or disabled people.

You have plenty of experience caring as you've raised kid/s. Maybe try that - it's paid, no bills.

oldowlgirl · 16/01/2019 22:27

No advice but well done for reaching out for help. I hope 2019 brings you better fortunes.

ICouldBeSomebodyYouKnow · 16/01/2019 22:37

No advice but well done for reaching out for help. I hope 2019 brings you better fortunes.

This. Sorry I have nothing more useful to add, but you sound resourceful and determined, and you WILL get through this to better times.

Overseasmom100 · 17/01/2019 22:06

How are you OP

GinZing · 18/01/2019 10:36

OP you don’t necessarily need qualifications if you have business experience. Go along to a temping agency and see what’s available, you might be surprised. Sorry you’re having a tough time, hope things pick up for you soon. Flowers

Ifangyow · 18/01/2019 10:46

When you're at rock bottom OP, there's only one way left to go and that's up.....and you will.
You could consider being a live in carer. It's good money, I think you work something like 2 weeks on and a week off.
That would solve your accommodation, money and job in one go, even if you only do it until you get back on your feet.
Best of luck.

IfNotNowThenWhy · 18/01/2019 10:48

God, yes, things that were actually funny in your 20s are really not in your 40s, I know exactly what you mean.
On the other hand, when you say you have no qualifications you are talking out of your hat. 25 years of running a business! ?
Please don't panic and think you have no choice but to do menial work.
I mean, do it if you need it in the short term, but you have skills. Is the business something you could re- invent or adapt to run alone? Could you raise funds for that based on your experience?
Also, it helps at all, at least you are staying with your son and not your mother. .that would be worse! Flowers

RandomMess · 18/01/2019 10:51

You have loads of skills you just need help identifying, labelling and evidencing them! Can you get an appointment at the job centre for CV writing?

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