I'm lonely

[mummyyessy]

I'm a single mum. No major money worries, decent job but work from home 90% time and rest of the time in an office where I barely see anyone.

My life isa routine of get up, get ds off to school, come home, work, pick ds up, cook tea, get to bed, watch tv & go to bed myself.

I do have friends but mainly mum friends who tend to only want to do play dates rather than dinners out as adults. My really good friends (2 women) are 2 hours away so not practical to see much of them. Ditto my family 5 hours away.

Hobbies can be tricky because I don't have much time away from ds & what time I do have is unpredictable.

I know it sounds like a massive winge; I'm actually normally pretty positive.

I'm just lonely.

I long for a partner but am having limited luck on dating sites. But most of all I long for a close, meaningful conversation once every few days. More than a hi in the playground....

Any ideas v welcome. Thanks.

Hi OP,
I totally see where your coming from, I'm in a similar position so single mum full time job and DS teen with me as he has very little contact with his dad.
My previous job I worked from home and it was a lonely time.
I'm now office based but i just don't have evening time for friends.

Could you nip out to meet anyone at lunchtime? Or join a club or gym and get childcare? Take them swimming after school and you go in the pool too? I think it's easy this time of year to just stay indoors and become a hermit I know I do this.
Invite anyone over in the evening for a meal? Take in turns with other parents for babysitting. Can your kids go to a club like scouts in the evenings while you go to a fitness club or gym or salsa class?
Thinking of you OP xx

Thanks @Donkdonkgoo.

I have thought about a gym but don't have a lot of time to do this & I wonder if I wd actually properly meet / talk to people in a gym.

I'm not looking for small talk, I crave meaningful conversation, deep discussion, genuineness.

Sorry to hear you e not had an easy time either.

What about having phone dates with your friends that live a bit far.

I do this with dh- we switch on the same tv program and speak all night on our phones. It’s company and it’s lovely.

Also phone my bestie about once a month for a proper chat. Often enough that it’s not just catching up and chatting, and a little off. But often enough that we can have meaningful conversations. That female to female depth of conversation is really important to me.

Suggestions-
Join a book club-they meet relatively infrequent and already talk on a serious note, so maybe there is something there?
Work mates- something there? Any friendships worth developing?

I should add- dh works away a lot!