Does the balance of power shift when sahm's go back to work?

[wizzywig]

Hi, just pondering really. I was a sahm(ish) for 10yrs. All of my part time work and uni studying came second in importance to running around after my husband. I 100% took on the mental load. We also have kids. Now things have changed. Ive started full time work, if all goes well i have a career starting and good prospects. Ill never earn what my husband does. But, im really REALLY enjoying having some power. For the first time he is making adjustments.

Have others found that their partners struggle with no longer having someone manage their home life for them? Or have they embraced the new situation?

I’ve never had to make these kind of adjustments just yet, but I have different sets of friends one who the husband absolutely loved his wife going to work ( the pay didn’t matter to them) he was so happy his wife had a new lease of life and also had different things to talk about. The decisions they started to make more together and any house hold stuff the didn’t have time to do they got people in cleaner etc. I have to say they both look so radiant since. It really changed their relationship in a positive way. I have other friends who the wife is fairly recent back to work etc. Her husband is finding it hard to adjust whether it will be temporary or not I don’t know. I think some guys can be set in their ways abit. What he’s been used to has changed and it has caused friction.

Good for you for doing something you want to for a change! It’s amazing what it can do for confidence levels.

bf8 aww he sounds lovely!