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Intimidated on the School Run

28 replies

5lnaBed · 16/01/2019 14:03

My child’s school is situated on a road which has 2 primary schools, ours is the one furthest away meaning I pass the other school on my way.

Everyday parents completely block the pavements outside the first school with their cars. I have a (very narrow) double buggy for my younger children and in order to get past the cars I have to walk in the road.

On Monday there was a woman sat in one of these parked cars. She decided I’d walked too closely to her car as I went past. I don’t believe I actually touched the car as I’m very careful with the buggy and watching where it is however I stay as close as I can as I don’t feel hugely safe in the middle of the road as the cars go right up to a 90 degree bend and I’m not very visible.

She started to shout after me which I initially only half heard and so ignored. She then started her engine and drove up to where I was walking. She called me a “stupid fat cunt” and said I should “have more respect”. I was somewhat confused so didn’t respond, kept on walking and cut into an off road path which is a little short cut.

She then drove her car round to where my short cut would meet the road again and started shouting at me as I approached. This time I asked what was wrong, I then asked if I had caused any damage (I hadn’t) but she continued to shout abuse at me. I apologised and said I needed to get my child and asked her to please leave me alone.

Thankfully she had gone (presumably to get her own child) by the time I came out of the school gates.

This morning she was there again on my way out. She didn’t say anything to me but kept driving past me and then turning round to drive past again, glaring at me.

If I’m honest I’m quite worried, she seems a bit unnerved and I feel quite vunerable walking with my children. I don’t know what I can do about it or even if I should do anything about it.

Really just wanted to get it all off my chest as I’m getting really nervous about going out again this afternoon and potentially encountering her again.

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Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 16/01/2019 14:25

How horrible!

Firstly when she's there again, take note of her number plate and if she continues, file a report with the police. It's intimidating behaviour and antisocial.

I'd also email the other school and highlight the issue you have with some of their parents' parking as blocking the path to a point where parents with prams and children are having to walk in the road is unacceptable.

Vagabond · 16/01/2019 14:30

That is terrible. How shit is that! I'd say, puff your chest out, stare straight ahead and forge your way forward. Good luck. What an awful person.

RiverTam · 16/01/2019 14:32

is she a parent at the other school? I'd be inclined to let them know - both from the point of view of bad antisocial parking and being abusive. I would guess that they may well know how she is already...

User758172 · 16/01/2019 14:52

She sounds unhinged!

If you remember her reg number, I would phone her child’s school. That’s awful behaviour.

AlwaysInMotion · 16/01/2019 14:54

Take a note of her registration and write to the school about the general issues that parking causes.

PrawnTheChoker · 16/01/2019 14:55

Just boot her wing mirror off and spit on her windscreen, it's what she wants. Police can do naff all about people like this, they haven't the time or the powers.

PrawnTheChoker · 16/01/2019 14:56

Boot from the mirrored side though, otherwise it'll probably just fold in.

ohdearmymistake · 16/01/2019 16:16

Have a word with the police and traffic wardens, no one is supposed to block the pavement so that people have to walk in the road to get past.

MrsWombat · 16/01/2019 16:21

Tell the school and the local police. My local ones would be interested in this, even if they couldn't do anything.

Maelstrop · 16/01/2019 16:25

Stop and take a very obvious photo of her index. Smirk and walk away.

Disfordarkchocolate · 16/01/2019 16:30

If it happens again take a photo of the car with the number plate and speak to the school. I would consider a chat with the police/local PCSO if that was an option. It would make me very stressed so take care.

5lnaBed · 16/01/2019 16:34

Stop and take a very obvious photo of her index. Smirk and walk away.

I honestly think she’d hit me or something

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thebeesknees123 · 16/01/2019 16:35

Tell the Head

GassyAss · 16/01/2019 16:36

Number plate
PCSO
And email both schools.

If she does this to you, she'd be happy to do it to someone else.
PCSO should take it seriously too.

happypotamus · 16/01/2019 16:37

Contact her school and let them know about her and other's blocking the pavement with their parking. My DC's school prints the registration numbers of parents' cars reported to them for inconsiderate parking in the newsletter if people report it to the office. Other parents report those who park on the yellow markings outside the school gates so it is hard to safely cross to the school from the other side of the street with pushchairs and small children, and people who live on the street report those who park across their drive etc. I don't suppose the school can do much else because they don't know which parents drive which cars and can't do much about antisocial behaviour happening off the school premises, but it is worth a try.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 16/01/2019 16:38

Given how you are feeling try your best not to engage, walk where you need to walk, if she doesn't stop within the next week then yes I would get out your phone and film her. Then let her know "since you seem intent on harassing me you leave me no option but you keep a record of your intimidation" ...its during school run time shes not realistically going to do anything

PrawnTheChoker · 16/01/2019 16:43

Come on OP. Be more Moss

Parthenope · 16/01/2019 16:48

My DC's school prints the registration numbers of parents' cars reported to them for inconsiderate parking in the newsletter if people report it to the office.

Ours does too. I'd email both school offices with her reg.

Dongdingdong · 16/01/2019 17:02

Sorry to hear that OP - I know how those sorts of situations can leave you feeling really shaken up. She sounds absolutely vile to be honest - her poor kid(s).

O4FS · 16/01/2019 17:04

Yes report to the school.

Police and council if no joy there.

5lnaBed · 16/01/2019 17:30

Oh I love Moss

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noego · 16/01/2019 17:43

e-mail your traffic and highways Dept at the County Council. Attach photo's to the e-mail of the illegal parking. They may put traffic wardens or PCSO in place to monitor the situation.
Do not be surprised if the lorry with the yellow line pain turns up in the next few months though.
I hear on the grapevine that because of this problem is a national double yellow lines may start appearing around most schools in the foreseeable future. These yellow lines may extend to one mile from the school I.e. a half mile in each direction.

noego · 16/01/2019 17:44

*national problem

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 16/01/2019 17:48

Be brave, straight into the school and talk to the head, get the reg and a clear description of her and the car. She sounds like a loutish bully.

bringbacksideburns · 16/01/2019 17:56

Seriously what is wrong with some people? Why are they so horrible??
She'd be happy for you to walk into the road with your children then ?

Can you walk on the other side of the road?
Any more from her and report her reg to the school with a description of her and her intimidating behaviour.

Then if she tries bullying you again you have a record of it.