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Travelling for work

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Sproutsandall · 15/01/2019 21:57

Work are sending me off on a 4-day visit to an Asian country shortly. It’s a country I’ve always wanted to visit, and I have the option of extending it to a full week at very little extra cost to me. Work don’t care either way, but I have a nearly 3 year old and I feel horribly guilty about leaving her for a full week. I’ve never left her for so long before. Money is fairly tight, so if I don’t take this opportunity, it’s unlikely I’ll be able to afford to go to this country again under my own steam.
She will be with her dad/my DP, but she’s very much a mummy’s girl at the moment.
WWYD?

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bonfireheart · 15/01/2019 21:59

She's with her father. She'll be fine. Do it.

BeeFarseer · 15/01/2019 22:00

She will be fine. You'll regret it forever if you don't do it.

edwinbear · 15/01/2019 22:07

Go! She will be fine with her Dad! I’ve left mine for a week at similar ages and there were no problems at all. It was very exciting for everyone all round, DC had a fun week with Daddy, I got a weeks holiday, everyone got lots of presents when I came home.

bonfireheart · 15/01/2019 22:08

Also if you don't do it now it'll get harder. A few days away from each other might make her less clingy when u want to go away ever again.

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Sproutsandall · 15/01/2019 22:10

It would be a baptism of fire with her dad, because she only wants me in the morning at the moment. She shouts «not you!» at her dad until I come.
He’s never anything but nice to her, so I don’t know where this has come from.
They’ve previously got on fine when I’ve been away for two nights/three days, but obviously this is much longer.

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Sinead100 · 15/01/2019 22:11

Go go go!!

BIWI · 15/01/2019 22:11

She will be fine. Go!

BabiesComeWithHats · 15/01/2019 22:13

I did it this time last year. I travel a lot but there was one city that I'd wanted to go to forever and just added 36 hours onto.

I would keep the extra time short but plan it very tightly. Pick one or two activities that you want to do or places you want to go and do that. Don't plan to potter or mooch about as work will likely encroach on it. Also I find I am more likely to miss family when on 'time off' mode rather than work mode.
Also if you have to move your accommodation make it something nice so you feel safe and happy there on your own.

Unescorted · 15/01/2019 22:13

Do It!

VenusClapTrap · 15/01/2019 22:14

I wouldn’t hesitate; I’d definitely do it. It will be a really good bonding opportunity for your dd and dp.

Findingdotty · 15/01/2019 22:17

I would go. Mainly because after 3 days your DD will be fine and not so mummy’s girl (until you get back - don’t worry!). You’ll kick yourself to return and she’s all happy and content with Daddy and not so clingy anymore.

GroggyLegs · 15/01/2019 22:17

Definately do it.

You've got to go anyway, so there will still be the initial separation whether you stay 4 or 7 nights. By night 4 they'll have found their own routine.

My DC are usually good as gold for DH when I gave to stay away with work Hmm they save the drama for muggins here. We facetime before bed to say goodnight.

Imagine how much you'll get out if those few days. Don't miss this opportunity.

Parthenope · 15/01/2019 22:20

I wouldn’t think twice.

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Sproutsandall · 15/01/2019 22:27

Thank you all. It’s reassuring that you all think I should do it. I will be with work colleagues who are friends, so not alone, but I traveled loads on my own completely before dp and Dd anyway, so that wouldn’t be a problem in any case.
I was just worried about DD, but I think you’re all right and this would give them the bonding opportunity they need.
Eek! I might have to start packing my case!

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SpeedyBojangles · 15/01/2019 22:46

She shouts for you because she knows you're there and you will come. I'd bet money that if you weren't there she'd be absolutely fine with her Dad. My DD is the same at bedtime. If I'm home, it HAS to be me, but if I'm not she is absolutely fine with her Dad.

Do it!!!

BackforGood · 15/01/2019 22:51

Once she has sussed you aren't there, she'll be fine with her Dad. She will only shout for you when you are available.
Stay and see a bit of the country - it would be a complete waste of an opportunity not to.

mindutopia · 15/01/2019 23:10

Go and enjoy. She’ll be fine. My dd stayed with my dh while I did 2 weeks of work travel to the US and Australia at 17 months. They had a blast and it was really lovely for their bond.

Shylo · 15/01/2019 23:12

Do it!

I always used to rush home from trips because I felt guilty but I’ve realised that actually it’s the saying goodbye but that’s hard and once you’re away and extra couple of days makes little difference

SushiMonster · 15/01/2019 23:38

She’ll be fine. She won’t shout for younin the mornings because you won’t be there. Bet she’ll be as good as good with her dad.

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Sproutsandall · 16/01/2019 10:01

Well, that's pleasingly unanimous. Thank you all. Flowers I will go and enjoy myself as directed. Grin

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