How do you stay strong?

[Justonedayatatime11]

Sorry, this may be a bit odd.
Exh (emotionally abusive) has used DD to control me for the past 5 years. We've been to court more than once and he still fails to stick to his end of the CAO, yet makes out that I'm unreasonable/selfish/abusive if I don't jump when he clicks his fingers. Last night I decided enough is enough. Sent him a very polite, very clear text message outlining how things are going to be from now on and that I won't put up with any more bullying from him.
I'm feeling ok atm, but I know sooner or later the doubts will creep back in and I'm likely to back down and be a bloody doormat again.
So how do you keep yourself strong? I have ZERO self confidence and it's going to take years to undo all the damage he's caused, but this time I'm determined to do it. Advice please??

You keep strong by reminding yourself that your daughter needs consistency. Him messing around after things are put in place are not fair on her.

Secondly she will model her relationships in later life on what she sees growing up- so you need to be strong about your boundaries so that she will also have the confidence to be strong too.

Chin up. When your feeling weak turn your phone off, or alternatively refuse to discuss changes. Straight forward. That doesn’t work for DD

That's it, I want consistency for her, but he feels his wants are more important than that

Write down your reasons on a bit of paper now! Then you can remind yourself when you waiver.

How old I dc dd? I haven't text /spoken to exh for over ten years.

DD is 5 so unfortunately I have a long wait before I can go completely NC.