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Dd sleeping in with me ...

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thaegumathteth · 15/01/2019 09:25

Dd is 8 and has been going through a phase of getting worried and upset about anything and everything at bedtime. She’s been doing better recently but last night wasn’t great.

For background in the last 3 years she’s had 2 close family bereavements and in the last 6 months we’ve lost a pet and I’ve been ill and in hospital a couple of times.

Last night she was still awake at 11pm and obviously upset, school in morning etc. I told her to come into my bed where she fell asleep immediately.

Mentioned it to my mum this morning and apparently this is weird and not to be encouraged.

What do you think?

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thaegumathteth · 15/01/2019 14:16

Sorry everyone had to go to work.

Yes I definitely won’t mention to my mum again!

Glad everyone else thinks it’s normal. I think the fact she fell immediately asleep with me shows it’s what she needed tbf.

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Odiepants · 15/01/2019 15:00

My DS 9 regularly is in bed with me. HE either comes in after a nightmare or he can't get to sleep because he's worrying about something. He doesn't need to cuddle me, he just likes to not be on his own.

I remember lying awake worrying for hours of hiding under the duvet as a child - I wasn't allowed in my parent's bedroom at night and it was horrible.

RtHonLady · 15/01/2019 15:11

Last time my daughter was unwell, she slept in my bed. She was 18

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sunshineandshowers21 · 15/01/2019 15:14

my eleven year old and four year old regularly sleep in bed with me and my partner. they’re only little once!

christmaschristmaschristmas · 15/01/2019 15:16

Not weird at all - she's 8 not 18!

Morgan12 · 15/01/2019 15:23

I don't see the big deal with allowing your children to sleep with you. They will grow out it in their own time. I doubt anyone's 16 year old still wants to sleep in with them.

BaronessBomburst · 15/01/2019 15:27

DS turned up in my bed last night. He woke up cold.
It's fine.

CarolDanvers · 15/01/2019 16:00

Same as others I well remember lying awake terrified in the early hours after a bad dream or just because I had woken up in the dark. I wouldn't have dared disturb my parents. I'm not entirely sure that children are supposed to be alone for hours in the dark, surely it's perfectly normal and natural for young children to want to be close to their care giver. I'm really glad my dd never has to go through lying awake cold with fear in the dark for hours like I used to.

Itsnotalwaysfair · 15/01/2019 16:06

When I was really ill and couldn't move and in terrible pain, my mum combed my hair as DH hadn't been able to do it and it had got all matted whilst I was bed ridden, then she lay down in my bed and gave me a cuddle until I fell asleep. I was 36 and had a child of my own. Your kid is 8. It's fine.

olympic19 · 15/01/2019 16:11

My seven year old DS is in with us most nights and our 10 year old gets in relatively often. If they need the closeness to us, why would we deny that? Keep doing what works for you.

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