What is fair here?

[Wineismyfriend45]

DP (of 4 years) and I are moving in together in the next few months. I have one child from previous relationship. We need to sort finances out and I am trying to find the fairest way.

Bills equate to approx 600 a month, not including shopping, cars, personal phones. He earns approx 30K, I will only be earning part time wage of approx 600 a month. I won't get benefits anymore due to combined income etc.

how would you arrange this?

Anyone?

What does he suggest?

Are you a team?

A family?

Will you be looking after the house when you are not at work?

Why don't you work full time?

Will you be having more children?

how much is the father of your child contributing?

I would arrange it so we each had the same amount of disposable 'personal' money per month - that's what I do with my DH who earns less than I do. If there's a huge difference in what you each spend on a personal car/phone then I would count the difference as part of your personal spend (i.e. your choice to have a more expensive car/phone).

When you discussed moving in together and you pointed out that you will be worse off financially, what was his response?

Did you discuss that you wouldn’t be getting some of your benefits anymore?
It’s not necessarily what we think is fair but what you both feel happy with.
Also, if you have less money, you’ll have less for your child, clubs/school shoes etc.

The discussion is happening on Friday! I just wanted a few opinions before hand as a starting point.
The father of DC contributes £160 a month.
I work part time because DC is still young enough to need me around. I don't mind breakfast/after school club one end of the day but I am not happy with DC being with child minders etc both ends really. If I needed to I would consider it though.
Yes we would like another
Yes I would be doing the majority of housework/washing etc.

I can understand why you want to be around your young DC, and how that restricts your employment options, but you have to accept that you are looking for this man to contribute to the rearing of your child, that's the question you need to ask him.