Anyone like to share their family systems for getting children to do stuff? Music practice, homework, thank you letters, water bottles, games kit, even getting them to brush their bloomin' teeth?
I was oh so smug about this when they were 4 or 5 and able to get their own breakfast. I've always tried to arrange things to foster independence, and they are lovely well-meaning kids. However these days they just don't seem to be able to start anything without me nagging them. We have some bits like music practice scheduled in - one child is autistic and structure is helpful. But at the moment, they need far too much nagging to actually do any of it. I need to change the dynamic.
So what works in your house? Do you have star charts, pocket money incentives, no TV until XYZ is done?
In our defence, one's just gone up to secondary so she's got a lot on her plate and the other's autism makes executive function a bit harder, but other people seem to have their 11 year olds cooking dinner and making their own lunches. Ours just sort of grinds to a halt behind a book if you take your eye off her. How can I fix this? What works in your house? Am I expecting too much or too little? They are Y5 and Y7, but the Y5 is behind the curve a bit.