I've been in this relationship 14 years and have two kids 6 year old baby 18 months. We have always had problems and arguments but lately I'm starting realise that enough is enough but I'm being told by him I've got problems I'm being stupid so you start doubt yourself. Just before I'm doing my daughter's homework not sitting around but told could done dishes should made time he doesn't get why I'm mad at that says he just talking should left some homework feel can't do anything right. Anxious around him. There been lots like that where he controlling putting me down starting feel so low and sad. He say I'm not normal. I know can't keep living like this but always my fault lose my temper and shout then get upset am being unreasonable?