Long story short - Family of grown up children. Growing up was hard, young, immature and selfish parents meant we relied on each growing up and as a result are incredibly close and share a special bond. Without giving too much away - alcoholism, infidelity and domestic violence were par for the course - anyway divorce and death moved it all on - harsh but true.
Recently one sibling has cut surviving parent out of their life - won’t disclose why despite repeated pleas. Says surviving parent knows why and finds it a release to have made the cut.
It’s devastating the rest of us and we’re torn - love parent and sibling. Anyway, my issue is this - sibling is having two family events, siblings and families are invited to both but parent is only invited to one and has no idea about the other.
If I go to both I’m taking sides - if I go to just one I’m taking sides; I can’t win as either sibling or parent will be hurt. Siblings have taken a stance and made a decision and told sibling they’ll only be attending the one parent is going to.
What would you do?