Thank you notes after child’s birthday

[LuckyAmy1986]

For presents. Yes or no? I was brought up to but my kids have never received one so not sure if it’s the done thing these days!

My understanding has always been to send a thank you note for presents that haven’t been received ‘in person’, ie; I always make my DS send a thank you for presents received in the post but if he has been handed a present and said ‘thank you’ direct then no need to send a thank you letter.

Not done imo- quick thank you text from parent and I make sure DC thank all the guests and their parents as they leave. We've never received any thank you cards either.

Yes for family.
No for party with class friends, though if you are very clever you remember who gave what and mention how much they liked X next time you see their parent.

Waste of paper. Do you think people keep the thank you notes or put them straight in the bin? I know what I would do with one. You thank them in person.

Yes to people who send who you haven’t seen, no to party guests. Mind you most of the class does thank you notes and it drives me barmy - I don’t want one and nor do I want my child to have to send 30 of them. Thank you has been said at the party.

This used to be such a thing where we used to live because, IMO, we had a high proportion of SAHM and they didn’t mind the time spent on them. I have neither time nor inclination. We send thank you notes to members of family who live faraway and that’s it. Everything else is done in person.

Everyone at my children's school she's thank you notes.

That’s great thanks for the responses!

I agree with most.

thank you notes are for people you haven't seen, in person, and for elderly relatives.
No need for classmates / friends who you said thank you to at the party, when they handed them over.

Thank goodness for that. I thought I was being rude not sending them just because I never got around to it, but thinking about it we haven’t had many either.

We always do notes (on bits of coloured paper rather than cards) as presents don’t get opened until after the party.

Everyone does it at our school. Only exception is if you opened the gift while the giver was present, and thanked them at that time.

Waste of paper. They go straight in the bin.