Am I doing the right thing?

[Mississippilessly]

I've posted in MN loads recently and you have all been hugely helpful. I need advice again!
DS is 17 weeks. Poor sleeper. Went 6 hrs the other day but that was an anomaly. As the early morning approaches gets harder and harder to keep asleep. He is also not settling for DH. DH is finding this tough as he can see I'm struggling and wants to help. Baby is EBF
He fed at 3.45 this morning. He slept upright on me for 20 mins ( I suspect silent reflux). But when put back he woke up 10mins later. By 5 he still wasn't settled. I was a wreck. DH sent me to the spare room. He tried to settle DS. 20 mins of crying later he was calm. He slept on DH til 8.

I've no doubt I could have calmed him much quicker. But i need him to settle for DH otherwise I'm going to lose my mind. Is this the equivalent of CIO? Am I abandoning my baby? Or helping him and DH to bond?! Co sleeping makes no difference.

Hopeful bump

You are not abandoning your baby and he is not CIO either. Your baby was being looked after by his dad and you say he settled for him after 20mins. All is fine. Be kind to yourself op.

Thanks. I realise if I leave I'm essentially part night weaning him but he cannot have been hungry an hr after feeding!