Reasons for telling the DW/H....

[abetterplace]

I've read a few threads on relationships from people who were the (sometimes accidental) OW/M, and wondering if they should tell the DW/H.

A question that comes uptime and again is why are you telling him/her?

Does it really matter why? Surely the us should know/Not know for the good of their lives, not how it affects the 'teller' ?

(Helpfully that makes some kind of sense)

I guess it does matter why because some people want to tell hoping to break the marriage (and benefit from it or get revenge).

Some people accept affairs, as long as there not 'in their face', so it does matter why they are telling them.

However, it's sickening that a cheating rat gets to carry on life as usual and I can understand why someone would want revenge.

Because it's for selfish reasons. They got into a fight with the married person, got broken up with, or feel guilty. It's never ever for the spouses benefit. Just an extension of their own selfishness.

If they are an accidental OW/M its fine. They were lied to, they dont want someone else to be lied to because it hurts.

A knowing OW/M is conniving. They`ll do what they want to get what they want. Nasty.