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Friend bought me tickets I don't want

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Supermum11 · 11/01/2019 08:04

Ok so my friend bought tickets for the spice girls tour but the thing is I don't want to go and I can't afford it I don't know what to do as I really don't want her to fall out with me but I don't see why I should be forced into going when I don't want to the also date that the concert is on is my wedding anniversary so I would rather be with my husband I never asked her to buy me a ticket she just assumed I would like to go I would go if it wasn't so expensive and if it wasn't on my anniversary please help what should I do? I'm worried she will he left out of pocket if I don't go but that isn't my problem should I pay her for the ticket and just not go or try and sell the ticket myself or should I just pay for the ticket and go reluctantly or I could just tell her I don't want to go and not pay her and then probably lose a good friend I don't know what to do please help??

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recently · 11/01/2019 08:06

You need to be honest and talk to her. Not sure there's anything else to add!

flumpybear · 11/01/2019 08:13

She bought you a ticket without asking firstly if you want to go, secondly if you can go, thirdly you can afford the stupid prices they charge and tickets you to pay up?!

Tell her no thank you, nice thought but itd my wedding anniversary and I'm a bit brassic so wouldn't want to part with money just for a concert and can she check next time

SalrycLuxx · 11/01/2019 08:15

She should be able to sell the spare on to someone else, given it apparently sold out. She’s not allowed to spend your money for you - but if you need an excuse just tell her it’s your anniversary and DP already booked an evening out.

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YepImafraidIchangeditagain · 11/01/2019 08:16

Ooooh I'm going to this!

Aridane · 11/01/2019 08:17

Is it a gift or is she expecting you to reimburse?

NicoleNoPants · 11/01/2019 08:19

Can you say DH has already booked something?

springlike · 11/01/2019 08:19

Your OP is a little tricky to understand. Did she ask if you wanted a ticket before she bought them or has she bought and then assumed you will go with her? If you didn't ask her to get you one, explain it's not going to possible for you and she will have time to find someone else to go with. If the ticket is a gift to you but you can't afford other added expenses of going to a concert or still would just rather not go, then tell her that. I'm sure she can find someone to go, there's still plenty of time.

BlackCatSleeping · 11/01/2019 08:23

I think you need to tell her sooner rather than later as she will have more options. Just say your husband has already booked something for your anniversary and you can't go.

Sirzy · 11/01/2019 08:24

If it was a gift I would accept with good grace and go. But expecting paying? Sod that! Tell her you can’t afford it.

Echobelly · 11/01/2019 08:26

Absolutely tell her you appreciate her buying them, but sorry, it's your wedding anniversary and you'll want to be with DH (and I agree, if necessary, say you've already booked something). I'm sure she'll find someone else to go with.

FrancisCrawford · 11/01/2019 08:37

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AWishForWingsThatWork · 11/01/2019 08:37

Tell her gently that it was a lovely thought, but she really should have asked you before buying the tickets. It's your wedding anniversary that day and you have plans with your husband. And, unfortunately, even if you hadn't already had plans, they would be too much for your budget without prior planning. Tell her you hope she can find someone else to go with.

Grace212 · 11/01/2019 08:40

point out you were never asked and you don't want to go. don't offer to pay.

greendale17 · 11/01/2019 08:41

Tell her straight away it is your wedding anniversary and you already have plans with your husband. Sorted

MissingGeorgeMichael · 11/01/2019 08:45

So I am assuming this is a gift and you can't afford to attend or she booked a ticket for you and is expecting you to pay her for it?

Invisimamma · 11/01/2019 08:46

She will be able to sell these on easily. Spice girls concerts sold out in minutes, there will be lots of people who want to buy them.

Just explain gently it's your wedding anniversary and you have plans with your husband.

Iloveacurry · 11/01/2019 08:47

Just talk to her. Perhaps another friend can go with her.

Gatehouse77 · 11/01/2019 08:54

If she bought them without checking with you first - for the date if nothing else - then I'm afraid it's on her if you can't make it.

Livingthedream44 · 11/01/2019 09:09

I'm surprised she went ahead and bought tickets before checking with you? The only time people usually do that is if they are treating you to the ticket as a surprise/ gift?

Anyway, don't feel under pressure.
Just be honest with her and explain.
I'm sure she will find someone else to join her if you give her plenty of notice.

CatnissEverdene · 11/01/2019 09:13

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BrexitBrexitReadAllAboutIt · 11/01/2019 09:17

@CatnissEverdene not sure what being menopausal has to do with anything?

HaveAnotherCuppa · 11/01/2019 09:17

Just say no thank you.
You don't even need to offer an excuse, given that she didn't ask you if you wanted to go, but if she presses say it's your anniversary and you have plans.
Can't think of anything worse than a spice girls concert TBH!

Lovemusic33 · 11/01/2019 09:17

I would call her or message her saying “I have a little bit of a problem with the spice girls date, it seems to land on my wedding anniversary and dh has booked a night out, would it be possible for you to pass the ticket on to someone else as I would hate for it to not get used?”

I’m sure she can sell it or pass it on to someone. She should have asked if you were free in that date before booking but she probably didn’t think and rushed into buying tickets.

Butterflycookie · 11/01/2019 09:18

I don’t get how This happened? Did she ask you before she booked the tickets?

Loyaultemelie · 11/01/2019 09:21

Just tell her it's your anniversary and you and Dh have arranged to go somewhere. You don't need to reimburse because she didn't ask

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