Birthday Pity Party, everyone's invited!

[birthdayloner]

It was my birthday today, and I feel like shit. It wasn't a milestone birthday, so no reason to expect a fuss, but not a single friend remembered or bothered.

I mean, I even got a few social media comments from acquaintances. But my friends said/sent/messaged nothing.

I feel very down about this, I don't have a wide circle or a group, just a handful of people who I make time for/will be there for and remember all their birthdays.

Even a friend who recently had a birthday party, and I was the only one who showed up (some family also did) didn't even text.

I'm always the one to make the effort and arrange a meet-up or check in, and I'm starting to think there's just something wrong with me, it's as if I can't hold on to people, if I'm not in their direct vicinity- be that work, shared hobby, kid related thing - I'm just not worth the time.

Sorry, just having myself a little pity party, I'm pretending in RL I'm not bothered and it's lovely to have a quiet day, as also all of DHs family forgot and a fair portion of mine I really am not asking for a fuss and lavish gifts and to be queen of the birthday kingdom, just a text would have been nice.

I’m sorry you feel crap about it. I think it’s difficult to remember birthdays nowadays without the nudge from Facebook. A bit like losing the ability to remember phone numbers. You sound like a decent friend to others.

Happy birthday

Sorry your friends and family have been rubbish.

I bring

And Twister.

Happy birthday.
I am sorry people were thoughtless bit you are still fucking wonderful.

Happy Birthday!

Hope you'll go out for a meal or do something with dh?

Happy birthday. I’ll bring card against humanity Disney version and 🍾

Happy birthday! Totally understand why you’d feel that way :( your friends don’t deserve you. I am rubbish at remembering dates and birthdays etc but your close friends you should just know.

My car broke down on my birthday last weekend in the middle of a strange city and we had to be towed the 2 hour drive home (with a crying baby!) I hope that is some consolation..! The bill was a thousand bloody quid too lol. I’m fully in the pity party with you ❤️

Aww sorry newname, it always feels like the universe is getting personal when things like that happen on your birthday!

We did go out for a meal, which was lovely!
Thank you for the birthday love, and the games, I haven't played twister in a long time (and cards against humanity is always a favourite) you've made me feel a lot better.

I've brought more🍾🍺🍸🍷 so we can all get bladdered. 😁

Do you have any vegan wine OP, so flies didn’t get harmed in its making? I’m doing veganuary (I swear I haven’t mentioned it to anyone IRL, only here on several threads) and I’m being facetious, but there is such a thing.

I had a birthday once that nobody remembered; not my husband, parents, siblings, friends and the children were too small.
I spent the whole day thinking something exciting and secret had been planned. It hadn't.

That's rotten OP, I'd feel hurt too.

Happy birthday, can I join the party? I've bought and

KnittedFairies OMG how awful :(

Lady, yes, and vegan cake!

You have my sympathy. On my 40th, my father took me out for lunch and asked me what DH had got me. The answer was "he's not given me anything yet."

And he didn't give my anything later, either. Not even a card. He argued that he was busy, but that didn't really cut it. I can only say that he's never repeated that one.

For the rest, I'm used to my birthday getting overlooked because it's in December and people have their heads firmly in Christmas stuff. At least this year my 12 yo DS made me dinner, so for once I wasn't the one cooking my birthday meal. That was his own idea and so sweet of him.

It's not just you OP. I think that most people these days are just seriously, seriously crap at keeping in touch. I'm also often the only one who bothers, but I do find people are very glad when I do, even if I only phone them a couple of times a year.

I think social media gives us the illusion of being in touch, without obliging us to make any effort with people, so people think an FB message or whatever is sufficient, and you don't have to catch up with each other because you know what's going on with one another on social media.

So chances are it's not you - but it is frustrating when people are crap.