How do you become more quick on your feet?

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I feel like this is something I struggle with a lot - I'm absolutely rubbish at banter because I struggle to think of what to say in response to things. If I say the first thing that comes to my head, it can sometimes be weird/not funny, but then other times all I can think of to say are really generic things like 'That's terrible!' (if it's something bad) or 'great!' (if it's something good).

I notice some people are always quick in with a funny comment or witty aside or even just something other than a boring filler like 'oh wow' (my go-to), but how do you get good at thinking on your feet and firing off responses? Can it be learnt?

I'm following as i relate completely.

Hopefully someone can enlighten us @scattercushion17. Good to hear I'm not the only one!

Give us an example of the kind of remark you want to respond to.

It could be anything @Repertory. Eg I just passed my boss in the street and he said 'Cold enough for you?' and I just giggled because I couldn't think of a reply

Watch more comedy

I kind of think you either have it or you don’t. I guess exposing yourself to lots of social situations where you are relaxed, chatting and bantering would help. Not over thinking it. Some days you can feel witty, others days you don’t have it.

From my experience, in my circle of friends some people just naturally think quicker and bat replies/ funny anecdotes back. It’s a personality thing too.

I don't think you can learn this.

Honestly, OP, that kind of blah platitude doesn’t need (or deserve) a quick-witted reply. The same guy presumably spent all last summer saying ‘Hot enough for you? I said, hot enough for you?’

Not something you can lear, sorry.

However you could cultivate a well placed raised eyebrow.

Learn ffs

I look at some people and they never seem at a loss for words. But maybe it can't be learned. I don't expect to become a witty wisecracking machine but a bit more bantering ability would be nice. I feel like I just can't think of anything to say half the time!

It comes naturally the more you do it. Quick chit chat to neighbours, person at bus stop, about something and nothing means the next social interaction is easier. Ok talking to someone at a bus stop in some parts of the country may get you looks of but give it a go.

Listed to comedy and talk show podcasts and radio. Chat back at the radio.

I do think this is something that some people are naturally better at, but as with all things in life we can improve if we try.

I think it's something you can or can't do. I usually think of a good reply about an hour later! I'm no good at small talk, or talking to peolpe in general. My Mum is similar though she's better at talking to people than me, but she doesn't get sarcasm at all.

AnecdoteIy, I have found posting on MN over a number of years has sharpened up my argumentative skills and wit in real life. (Good job I get something out of the hours and hours of investment...)

Don't think too much.

I fire off the first thing that pops into my head. Sometimes I shouldn't